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The realization that there aren't any main characters in the world and everyone has a complex life, thoughts, crushes, relatives, dreams and mind just as your own.

Essentially whilst you're the main character in your life, you're also a background character in someone else's.
The knowledge that both I and you reading this are actual people like the remaining 8 billion of us is making sonder hit me like a truck.
sonder by B O I B O I March 6, 2022
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Sandusky pause 

When you inappropriately pause before answering a serious question or during the process of answering a serious question. Coined by Jerry Sandusky when pausing after asked by Bob Costas if he was sexually attracted to young boys.
Keith gave a Sandusky pause when asked by his HR rep if he was masturbating in front of Erin Andrews.

HR rep: Keith, did you or have you ever masturbated in front of Erin Andrews?

Keith: Masturbated in front of Erin Andrews? What? Like jerk off? In front of Erin Andrews? Are you serious? Come on. Masturbate in front of Erin Andrews? No. I--what? That's silly. I would never masturbate in front of her. No. I didn't masturbate in front of her.
Sandusky pause by hoboscratch1 November 15, 2011
Sondous pronounced as "Sendes" is simply amazing. She's kind, beautiful and ambitious. And not to mention how her voice and laugh can make your day. If you find a Sondous you better "catch her" because you will be glad that you took the chance to have this amazing person in your life.
Girl/guy: OMG look! I wonder if that's a Sondous.

Girl/guy2: that's obviously a Sondous. She slays
sondous by tofflah123 April 21, 2016

Sandusky's Lair 

a place or location (often a locker room) where little boys and teens are taken to be abused for sexual pleasure of an older male.
Rumor has it that over 40 children have visited Sandusky's lair in the Penn State locker room over the last 10 years.
Sandusky's Lair by Your Fuqqin Boy December 27, 2011
Sonder is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. Sometimes your hurting so bad and you feel your the only one. But after all your hardships you start to realize that everybody is so unique and you aren't the only one. Everybody lives are so indescribably different and there is no way you will ever understand their lives. To sum it up you are realizing that your not the only one living with such chaos and complexity. All people lives are unique, strange, chaotic, and complex, just like yours. Your not alone.
I lay in bed so deep in my thoughts, the darkness was all around me while, slowly, the sonder started to kick in. I then realized that not only me, but all seven point fifty three billion people in this world which they are constantly living despite my personal lack of awareness of it.
sonder by _i_found_it_mom_ July 29, 2019

Jerry Sanduskying 

A word derived from the assistant coach from Penn State who was accused of molesting boys in the shower.

This is a verb used to describe someone who is molesting boys. Can be used to describe one who is being dominated.

Can also be used to describe someone/someones who pick on a person who have little to no control over the situation
I don't want to be a part of that Fraternity. I hear they are Jerry Sanduskying each other.

Are you watching the Bears? They are Jerry Sandusking the Packers right now!
Jerry Sanduskying by titoliston November 7, 2011
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