An example of Fretlifing:
BDSMMaster is into watching "others tell
lies for sympathy" when he actually should tell Person
X that telling lies for sympathy is dishonest and
pathetic.
Meanwhile, Persons A,
C, and D each wonders if it is about them, and ten other people wonder if it is about a rumour they heard about BDSMMaster and Person K.
Persons A, C, and D are Fretlifing, BDSMMaster is indirect and does not get message to intended audience, Person
X is still telling lies for sympathy, and everyone gossips about Person K.