1 definition by jacintha
Stressing over or adding passive-aggressive communication disguised as "fetishes" or status updates on the BDSM social network site called Fetlife.
An example of Fretlifing:
BDSMMaster is into watching "others tell lies for sympathy" when he actually should tell Person X that telling lies for sympathy is dishonest and pathetic.
Meanwhile, Persons A, C, and D each wonders if it is about them, and ten other people wonder if it is about a rumour they heard about BDSMMaster and Person K.
Persons A, C, and D are Fretlifing, BDSMMaster is indirect and does not get message to intended audience, Person X is still telling lies for sympathy, and everyone gossips about Person K.
BDSMMaster is into watching "others tell lies for sympathy" when he actually should tell Person X that telling lies for sympathy is dishonest and pathetic.
Meanwhile, Persons A, C, and D each wonders if it is about them, and ten other people wonder if it is about a rumour they heard about BDSMMaster and Person K.
Persons A, C, and D are Fretlifing, BDSMMaster is indirect and does not get message to intended audience, Person X is still telling lies for sympathy, and everyone gossips about Person K.
by jacintha January 2, 2011