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Heteronormative 

A viewpoint that expresses heterosexuality as a given instead of being one of many possibilities.

Often expressed subtly, heterosexuality is widely "accepted" as the default sexuality by both print and electronic media, education, law makers, and a range of attitudes expressed by society in general.

The subtle assumption of heterosexuality can be very harmful to those who do not entirely fit within its bounds.
A Heteronormative assumption that a boy will grow up and marry a woman.

A Heteronormative assumption that a girl will grow up and marry a man.

Heteronormative children's books only portraying heterosexuality.

Heteronormative TV Shows only portraying heterosexuality and the assumption that every character is heterosexual.

heteronormativity (heteronormative) 

A pervasive and institutionalized ideological system that naturalizes heterosexuality as universal; it must continually reproduce itself to maintain hegemony over other non-normative sexualities and ways of identity construction.
marriage, traditional family values, the Christian Coalition, suburbia, 'the American Dream'

heteronormativity 

A term that can be used to describe institutions, policies and beliefs that reinforce the rigid categories of male and female. These categories, supposedly, determine our sex, sexuality, sexual desire, gender identity, and gender roles.
The proposed law to make sure homosexuals never have marriage rights is just another step down the slippery heteronormativity slope.
heteronormativity by puchella May 15, 2006

heteronormal 

A fancy term for someone who follows a societies gender whether they're not really straight and are fearing they wont fit in or are a normal, straight man or woman.
Steven was a heteronormal neurotypical, a man in society who is considered very normal. Also know as a straight normal individual.
heteronormal by iamagoon February 16, 2014

Heteronormativity 

The reason all the commercials featuring happy families, show heterosexual relationships. The reason that if you say, "I'm seeing someone" a person might automatically ask who the person is, referring to them as "she" if you're a boy, or "he" if you're a girl. It is the belief that only male/female relationships are "normal" and that everyone falls into two distinct categories: male and female. It is the assumption that a girl will grow up and marry a man, and that a boy will grow up and marry a woman.
Friend: "Who's your crush?"
Boy: "I don't want to say."

Friend: "Come on, tell me her name!"

Boy: "...it's a he."

Friend: *shocked* "Ohh...sorry"
Boy: "It's not your fault. It's just that we grew up in a world ruled by heteronormativity."

Heteronormative 

1. Uber-PC term used by very angry and radical LGBT elements, referring to the perception of heterosexuality as normal, and other orientations, by extension, as being "different." As this point of view is a given for most people in the mainstream, even the very gay-tolerant, the term may be considered prejudicial, and is not widely used outside of the LGBT community. Often passed over in favor of the term, heterosexist, the latter being less awkward to pronounce.

2. Term used by the same elements to attack gays for being "not gay enough," for being too assimilated, or straight-acting, or for simply getting along too well with straight people.
1. "Dear Maxim:
How dare you write a dating article for men without devoting 50% of all text, pictures, and opinions to the gay community. It is prejudiced and heteronormative not to give the LGBT community exactly 50% of every thought you think....blah, blah, blah......"

"You know, you're really hot, and I think it's really prejudiced and heteronormative that you won't let me hit on you.....hey, where are you going?"

2. "It pisses me off that David's all heteronormative, and won't wear pink or earrings to any of his job interviews. He should represent more!"
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Frothability 

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Soul digger

A man who dates women with the sole purpose of exploiting their time, energy, and labor while he sucks the joy and happiness from their lives.
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pod person 

A person pretending to be something they aren't, or an impostor. This is inferred because of the old alien movies where alien pods appear on earth and the "pod people" dispose of the humans and slowly reproduce the bodies, pretending to be humans.
The pod person was pretending to be my father, but I knew that he was an alien when he acted differently than my father ever would have.
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A dead drop is a location used to secretly pass items between two people, without requiring them to meet.

Spies have been known to use dead drops, using various techniques to hide the items and to signal that the drop has been made. Drug dealers use this as well.

A common place is to duct tape the item to the underside of a toilet cover in a public restroom.

A signal is sometimes used as well to indicate there is something to pickup, like a pile of stones in a certain formation. After checking the drop the signal is removed.
"The dead drop is the restroom toilet at the Gulf station at the corner of Commercial Ave. and Georges Rd."
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No Surprises Wedding

A "No Surprises Wedding," or NSW, is a wedding invitation designation that tells attendees that there can be no unplanned announcements, engagements, events or speeches at the wedding - all actions must be pre-approved by the couple. Anyone who performs an unapproved "surprise" will be asked to leave the wedding early.

This designation comes from Reddit, where so many stories of bad wedding behavior indicated a need to communicate expectations for the wedding behavior of attendees.
You are cordially invited to the nuptials of Brian and Tom on October 31 at noon.

Please note that this wedding is child-free (under 10) and a No Surprises Wedding (NSW). Reach out to wedding planner Sami Smith to request approvals or exceptions; please note that exceptions will be rare. Limited child care for under-10s will be available. All approvals will be noted and included in planning. Unapproved, or surprise exceptions, will result in guests being asked to leave.
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