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The term "exgay" is a socio-political derivative of the term "gay". In the sixties, American homosexuals adopted use of the term gay in an attempt to reduce or destroy the negative psychological and perhaps religious connotations, associated with the word homosexual. Thus, the word gay helped to form a "positive" image necessary for the advancement of political goals.

No one is sure how the term "exgay" first became to be applied to men and women who made choices to no longer desire homosexual activity or identity, but the term stuck and is now widely used by homosexual activists --primarily in mocking quotes-- to indicate they do not believe such change in behavior or thought is possible.
Exgay is, for the many who do believe that the choice to change is possible, an uncomfortable expression of who they are (and are becoming). The great majority of exgays believe their change to be the product of religious belief and faith rather than socio-political posturing. This includes those from Jewish, Muslim and non-Evangelical Christianity belief groups.

Because the majority of former homosexuals attribute their change to religious conversion, the term exgay has no such applicable identification with religion in its fundamental usage.
Linda has been exgay for 13 years.
exgay by DL Foster September 19, 2006
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Sean is a depressed femboy, so he is Edgay.
Edgay by yuruchiki July 8, 2021

engaygement 

An period after the marriage proposal and before before the actual marriage or Civil Partnership (UK), between gays.
Brad proposed to Steve and they're throwing a Kylie-themed engaygement party next month.
engaygement by Richard Chapman December 12, 2008

engayify 

verb: to gay it up
the color pink tends to engayify any situation.
engayify by the storm drains April 2, 2009

ex-gay for pay 

A term coined by gay activist and author Wayne Besen to bring attention to the trend that those who profess to have been "cured" of their homosexuality often make their livelihood doing so. Once an individual has built a livelihood around claiming they've gone from gay to straight, should that person ever come to the realization they infact have NOT changed, they are far less likely to admit it for financial reasons.

Most major ex-gay organizations are headed by individuals who often make wild claims about going from totally gay to totally straight while lower ranked employees tend to profess less dramatic stories.
John Paulk who served on Focus On The Family's board of directors and appeared on the cover of Newsweek was very much ex-gay for pay until he was caught in a gay bar in Washington DC.
ex-gay for pay by Daniel S. Gonzales September 18, 2006

Egay 🅱️ enis

When you try to type the words 'are' and 'gay' but you fuck up the typing and end up with 'egay'. 🅱️enis adds in some flamboyant gay flare.
Person 1: Hey guys! How's your morning going?
Person 2: Egay 🅱️ enis
Person 3: What the fuck
Egay 🅱️ enis by Acerat November 1, 2019
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EBK stands for "Elite Ball Knowledge." 1 In internet slang, "ball knowledge" originally referred to a deep understanding of football/soccer or basketball, but it has evolved into a broader term for having a highly sophisticated, deep, or niche understanding of any specific topic (such as music, movies, or subcultures).
Person A: "That scene was a direct homage to an unreleased 1982 Japanese indie film."
Person B: "Wow, EBK."
EBK by silwhett November 5, 2026
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A seemingly endless debate with a idiot
I don't know man im not ready for yap trap stupidity today which always tries to suck you into it
Yap Trap by WolfieSnack November 4, 2026
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Texas is categorized as a swing state in presidential elections, but has voted for Republicans more times than for Democrats in recent history. As such, as demographics change political alignments, some Democrats believe that Texas will vote blue, or Democratic, due to their Hispanic and African American voters, who often align themselves with the Democratic Party's liberal wing.

Blexas has been cited as possible in the upcoming decades, but only if Democrats continue to win the Hispanic vote in bigger margins.
Democrat 1: What is your prediction for the 2024 presidential election?
Democrat 2: Well uh, Blexas!
Democrat 1: You've been saying that since 2008 though.
Blexas by Tritonist June 14, 2021
Word of the Day on November 4, 2026

briefcake 

"Did you check out the briefcake in courtroom C?"
briefcake by Ben Frey April 6, 2006
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Brought to public attention by Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein in the book on the fall of Richard Nixon, All The President’s Men, ratfucker was Nixon’s term for a political operative who sows chaos among opponents; an agent provocateur. It is thought to have originated among campus political rivalries at USC, and seems to have some usage in the US military.
Along with Nixon’s other ratfuckers, Roger Stone caused fights at otherwise peaceful Democratic Party protests to generate a false narrative that the Democrats were violent and dangerous.
Ratfucker by Ricky Ramjet November 2, 2017
Word of the Day on November 2, 2026
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