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Gaslighting

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A form of intimidation or psychological abuse, sometimes called Ambient Abuse where false information is presented to the victim, making them doubt their own memory, perception and quite often, their sanity. The classic example of gaslighting is to switch something around on someone that you know they're sure to notice, but then deny knowing anything about it, and to explain that they "must be imagining things" when they challenge these changes.

A more psychological definition of gaslighting is "an increasing frequency of systematically withholding factual information from, and/or providing false information to, the victim - having the gradual effect of making them anxious, confused, and less able to trust their own memory and perception.
Your spouse begins telling you things that never really happened. For instance, he says that last week he told you he was going to go to the bar with his buddies this Monday night, but you never remember him telling you that.

Or maybe your boss gets angry because you didn't prepare the report he asked you to. When you remind him that he usually prepares that particular report, he snaps that he told you to take care of it a few days ago because he was too busy. However, you know he never asked you to do so.

Both of these could be considered gaslighting.

Gaslighting

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When you lie to someone and you make them feel insane because they don’t know what to believe anymore. It’s a type of psychological abuse.
Matt Watson is always gaslighting Ryan Magee. Ryan says “ Stop gas lighting me Matt sponge bob is not gay”
Gaslighting by Super mega fan June 24, 2019

Gaslighting

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There's no such thing as gaslighting. Who even told you about this word? You probably dreamt it up. You're so stupid for even thinking this could be a real word.
Gaslighting? Maybe you misremembered a different word?
Gaslighting by EdMason September 7, 2021

Ambient Gaslighting 

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ambient gaslighting - Most people now know gaslighting, put simply, is when someone tries to make someone else question their reality. "Ambient gaslighting" refers to the subtle undercurrents of mistreatment or disrespect that we experience in small doses and may not realize are a form of gaslighting.

Physician psychiatrist Dr. Grant Brenner coin the term.

Are you being gaslit ?
Here are signs you're being gaslit, according to USA TODAY columnist Sara Kuburic:

You are often confused.

You are struggling to trust your memories or feelings.

You find yourself constantly apologizing.

You feel like you can’t do anything right.

You are often nervous, worried or anxious.
You don’t feel confident.
You struggle to trust yourself.
You constantly blame yourself when something goes wrong (even if it’s not your fault).
Ambient Gaslighting In the workplace. Executives may espouse transparency, but employees may experience behavior contrary to to that.

In targeted marketing. "People may be confused as to whether the ad they got is something they really wanted, or whether that desire has been planted in that.

In political news. Polarized politics have led to seemingly alternate realities that have only accelerated during the pandemic. Convincing opinion-like news programs or unverified viral social media posts may make you question your beliefs.
Ambient Gaslighting by Blu_leef March 31, 2023

Red-lighting

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Red-lighting/to red-light is to draw unwanted attention to yourself or another person, usually when committing a criminal act or trying to get away with something shady.

You risk red-lighting yourself &/or another person by behaving in a manner that may elicit unwanted scrutiny.

In Australia the saying is usually used by those who have a criminal background and tends to be associated with people from that demographic.

Examples;
Sitting in a car for an extended period of time when waiting to score.
Being under the influence when dealing with authority figures.

Engaging in avoidable, often pointless activities that put a person at risk of discovery when they would otherwise be in a position to evade notice such as;
driving a few km over the speed limit, using your mobile while driving, stealing something trivial, engaging in unnecessary conflict (verbal or otherwise), littering and so on.
"Mate, I ended up red-lighting myself something bad waiting for Jimbo to show."

"You're just going to red-light yourself driving to Springvale in that car."
Red-lighting by Slim Crim January 11, 2019

lighting guy 

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A person that places lights, hangs lights, programs lights, focuses lights, fixes lights, designs lighting plots, and stares at the lights once they get to a venue. One of the best guys or gals anyone could have on their side. They have a wide variety of common skills. They can climb, lift, communicate, see very far, great sex appeal, creative af, tell hands what to pick up, and program lighting fixtures. Their shit may be always in the way, and sometimes they may not know what’s wrong with their lights. When it comes down to showtime, not one compliant is heard. It may not look like the lighting guy is doing anything particularly important. Really, he or she just got their shit done I promise you, or ahead of time. Any one lighting guy is equal to at least two and a half sound guys or five video guys.
Concert goer #1: Wow, look at that beautiful stage! That looks sexy af!

Concert goer #2: I wonder who makes all those lights like that? I mean, I wish I was smart enough to make awesome lighting scenes!
Concert goer #1: That would be the lighting guy. He’s that sexy mf over there at front of house in the middle of the crowd!
lighting guy by Illuminaudi November 22, 2020
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Friend 2: How do you know?
Friend 1: Minimap
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Pink Cloud

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