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Someone who realizes they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, genderqueer, trans, or otherwise queer later in life or after making major life decisions like entering a straight marriage.

Sometimes the person noticed they might be GLBTQ early on, but didn't realize it warranted real consideration. Other times the realization seems to come out of the blue.

QueerL can also be used to describe someone who meets the above definition, or to describe their life situation.

Usually queerLs start a path of self-discovery which sometimes includes an affair, open, or poly relationship, and often results in eventually coming out of the closet and becoming a part of the larger queer community. Other queerLs chose to just keep the knowledge of their sexuality to themselves indefinitely. QueerLs are often isolated, many have never met (or realized they knew) another GLBTQ person.

QueerL people often face more complex issues in their personal life as a result of coming out later in life than people who come out earlier in life.
Jane is queerL. She was married to a man for 25 years and then realized she was actually a lesbian when she met Sue!
QueerL by dandelionjoy February 26, 2009
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Zero Beer Queer 

A gay person that does not drink beer.
Zero Beer Queer by Mique Zee December 5, 2020

Zero Beer Queer 

Unlike the common two beer queer, these fabulous creatures do not need alcohol to embrace their queerness.
Zero Beer Queer by Mique Zee December 4, 2020

Diesel Queer 

A homo who walks around in gym gear all day and attempts to mass enough muscle to look like the Incredible Hulk.
That diesel queer is so big i betcha he benches his boyfriend (Eric) everynight.
Diesel Queer by RepoMan January 26, 2005

queerbaiting 

1. A marketing technique used to attract queer viewers that involves creating romantic or sexual tension between two same-sex characters but never making it canon or evolving on it
2. when straight men or women pretend to be gay and flirt with people of the same sex as a joke
1. "There is a lot of queerbaiting in shows like Sherlock and Voltron."
2. "I got queerbaited by someone and it really hurt my feelings."
queerbaiting by pissbaby123 May 4, 2020

queenlight

To validate a woman's feelings with sincere intent to encourage, reassure, and uplift.
Antithesis of gaslight.

Related for Men: Kinglight
Initially stressed and unsure, after a heart to heart with her friends that queenlighted her, she felt ready to move on and conquer the night.
queenlight by PandaZoukini August 13, 2021

Queer as fuck 

more queer than most folk, possibly the queerest person in the room at any one point
You're so queer, you're so here, you're so queer as fuck.
Queer as fuck by jaffaw July 14, 2009
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You met me at a very Chinese time in my life

A moment in time where you feel distinctly Chinese over all other things.
Dante: "I wish I could be Nigerian, but I can't because I'm Chinese. You met me at a very Chinese time in my life."
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Adjective. Used to describe persons who have adjusted or altered their lifestyle for environmental reasons. Crunchy persons tend to be politically strongly left-leaning and may be additionally but not exclusively categorized as vegetarians, vegans, eco-tarians, conservationists, environmentalists, neo-hippies, tree huggers, nature enthusiasts, etc.

Also used to describe establishments where alternative foods and products are sold, i.e. natural food stores.

Modified derivative of granola.
"I need more crunchy guys in my life. I'm so tired of dating preppy metrosexual assholes."

"I'm heading out to the crunchy store to pick up some fair trade chocolate and tea tree oil, do you need anything?"
crunchy by EBC July 11, 2007
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A group of people, typically women, searching through someone’s digital footprint in order to find more information about that person.
Susie wasn’t sure if her new Hinge match was a creep, so she assembled Galantir and they found out he used to post slurs on gaming forums.
Galantir by Ge-sus September 22, 2026
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murderhobo 

In a tabletop game, a murderhobo is a player who murders NPCs indiscriminately. This is normally derogatory, referring to a player who totally ignores quests, dialog, backstory, trade, world building etc.

The term is most common with Dungeons and Dragons, but it can be applied to most RPGs where the player is allowed to kill most quest-giving NPCs and NPC traders. E.g. Elder Scrolls, Fallout, Divinity original sin.
DM: The sad little orphan girl tugs at Steve's trenchcoat to get his attention, and ask for help saving her pet dog from...
Steve: I'd like to roll a strength check against strangling the orphan.
Dave: I call dibs on the dog.
DM: You murderhobos disgust me.
murderhobo by Loup&S September 9, 2021
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In sales terms, a whale is a prospect that is significantly larger than an organization’s average customer.

Whales are large and extremely difficult to close. Due to their immense size, they are highly sought-after.

A whale is typically identified at first by a whale hunter on the sales team, but often requires cross-discipline participation in order to close; this includes assistance from operations, engineering, creative, client success, and business development teams.
"Shit...the sales director chewed me out on the sales call this morning. He's totally pissed that I have nothing in my pipeline. I've been focused on this one whale for so long that I haven't had time to prospect for normal-sized deals."
Whale by FQ_GFY February 3, 2020
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Concrete cowboy 

A guy who thinks he's a country kinda guy, but in reality lives a comfortable city / suburban life.
Eugene: Look at that dude in the cowboy hat!
Todd: He's just a concrete cowboy.
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