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Topping From The Bottom

In its basic, literal sense, it means exactly what it says. The person on the bottom is leading the top, thus technically topping from the bottom.
Guy 1: So I heard Derek let you top last night?
Guy 2: Yeah, but even though he was bottoming, he still had most of the control.
Guy 1: Ah, clearly he was topping from the bottom.
Topping From The Bottom by codytoads September 7, 2013

Topping from the bottom

TL;DR:(V) When a person positions themelf as subordinate or submissive, but controls the situation, makes decisions, or dominates others when they are not supposed to.

(Full) The term originates from the kink and BDSM community, but could apply anywhere, and refers to an often abusive failure to adhere to one's role as a power dynamic . "Top and bottom indicates the position of a role in a dynamic seperated by a "/", i.e. "Top/bottom" (T/b, Dom/sub, Sado/maso, Parent/child, Employer/employee, Win/lose, etc.)
The "top" slash has control, agency, and imposes their will on the "bottom" slash, who yields control, agency, and is only willful in their submission.
Topping from the bottom occurs when the bottom does not respect these roles and attempts to take control of the scene or relationship or impose their will on the Top slash, often passive agressively, but sometimes directly.
Top: "I thought we were having pizza. Why do we have burgers?"
Bottom 2: "I was picking a pizza, but Bottom 1 complained about all of them. So I chose burgers."
Top: "Bottom 1 mentioned burgers earlier, but when I asked, they said they were fine with whatever I picked, so I picked pizza. Looks like they were "topping from the bottom" again."

Rigger/ bunny
Bunny: "Would you do one of your ties on me today?"
Rig: " Yeah. Sounds like fun." Starts ties
Bunny: "Oh. I don'tlike taht tie. Would you do a different one?"
Rig: "okay." Reties
Bunny: "No not that one either."
Rig: "Well do you have a specific one you want?"
Bunny: "No. As long as you do a good one."
Rig: "Well, I have been doing good ones, but you don't think they are good. I can't do any ties if you're gonna "Top from the bottom" like that.

Driver/passenger - Passenger topping from the bottom
D: "I'll drive I know how to get there."
P: "Great. I HATE driving"; "You're going too fast..." ""...too slow..."...I wouldn't go that way..." "Watch out for that car..." "This ways faster..." "Watch out!"
D: "Hey! If you think you can do better driving, then you take over and I'll ride!"
P: "No thanks. I don't want to be behind the wheel."
D: "Then stop telling me what to do and let me drive in peace.

Topping from the Bottom

When a top just ain't hittin' it right, and needs some guidance and expertise so the bottom gives their own input on how they like it.
Person A: I heard you fucked Riley last night.
Person B: Yeah, he wasn't a really expirenced top, so I had to start topping from the bottom.

bang a you-ee 

of Massachusetts orig. "to make a u-turn"
hey, we missed the bar, bang a you-ee
Word of the Day on July 19, 2026
The word 'flag' as pronounced by people with thick Belfast accents. The term is a perfect encapsulation of the disproportionate and overblown reaction to the removal of the Union Jack (as in 'de fleg') from above City Hall in Belfast. Where previously it had flown for 365 days per year, it is now flown on 17 designated days of the year - in line with many other British cities.

The event caused a portion of the Protestant community ('fleggers') to make international pricks of themselves as they proceeded to wreck the fucking place, claiming it was another erosion of a 'British' identity they perceive to have been under attack since the horrifying spectre of equality reared its head in Northern Ireland.

The word 'fleg' - and indeed 'fleggers' - fittingly describes a section of humanity unconcerned with knowledge, reality or the vagaries of the English language. Like America's tea-baggers they are ruled by instinct, fear and paranoia with a side dish of rampant bigotry and startling ignorance of the world around them.
"Wat de fuck like! The taigs got de fleg took down! Let's wreck de fuckin place! No surrender!"

"De fleg has been took down! Before ye know it there'll be a united Ireland! Attack Short Strand! God Save The Queen!"
Fleg by OnionFleg August 9, 2013
Word of the Day on July 18, 2026
To take something small, that doesn't quite qualify as a theft. Probably from the Danish "skæv" or the Dutch "scheef", both of which are pronounced similarly, meaning "askew, or not quite right'. To change an item's ownership without permission, but only something small and of little worth.
"I skeefed an apple off the neighbor's tree." "I skeefed some chips outta your bag when you looked away." "Don't skeef my chair when I go to the bathroom."
Skeef by kachinaflonk July 16, 2026
Word of the Day on July 17, 2026