I am as appreciative as anyone logically would be for friendly attentive staffpeople in an ER or examination/operating room, but I get a bit concerned and suspicious if said employees seem TOO hospitalble, in that it makes me wonder if they are gonna try to "milk the system" by keeping me there longer than necessary, instead of speedily getting me on the road to recovery and then moving on to other patients.
"Quid pro quo" helpfulness/attentiveness, whereby yer host is a real bean-counter when it comes to wanting to be equivalently reimbursed for each and every fiddly little inconvenience or effort dat he has to endure on yer behalf.
Red Green recommends dat you actively/consciously avoid getting obligated to any of your macho buddies by partaking of favors or assistance from them dat they would view as "hospitallyty", and then try to guilt-trip YOU into doing an at-least-equal favor for THEM in return.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.