"Friend zone" describes the way most
women stop seeing a male friend as dating material after a certain amount of
time has passed, even though she might have begun dating him had he acted differently when they first met. -see example
-being "friendzoned" does not have to mean something negative in nature, it is simply a word to label the common situation of a male is only seen as a friend in the eyes of a
female come the
time he confesses his feels for her, which is completely ok, by no means does the male friend feel he is intitled to be with said
female(unless they are an assholes), everyone obviously has the right to reject who they wish, but that does not mean the male has no right to feel rejected and inadequate, especially in situations where said
female chooses to be with another
man of which the male friend feels is not appropriate for said
female, for whatever reason, such as opposing males personality(taking advantage of her and such). its mostly based on social norms and essentially stereotypes of male and
female interaction. Of course this is not always the case, it is possible for a
female to become "friendzoned" as the roles are simply reversed, though it is less common as guys are more in the position of asking a girl to be with him (a social norm). I personally dislike like the reality of social norms, but that does not mean they are not blatantly obvious, more so when observing rather than participating.
John meets Mary. Mary thinks "This guy seems nice. He'
s quite funny and reasonably good looking".
John doesn't ask Mary out, but they see each other at social functions. After a while, Mary stops seeing
John as a nice guy who is quite funny and reasonably good looking, and just sees him as friend.
John realizes he's secretly madly in love with Mary and begins trying to hang out with her more and more. Because
John loves Mary, he stops behaving reasonably and starts doing anything just to spend
time with her. Eventually, he summons his courage and confesses his love for her. But Mary just feels uncomfortable and confused. She doesn't want to lose her friend and she feels pressured by his feelings for her. To be honest,
John's been a little needy and pathetic lately, hanging on her every word and catering to her every whim, and that's not really very sexy.
John has been friendzoned by Mary.
John had a chance when they first met but he messed it up by not doing anything about it. When he finally got his act together, the friendship that developed actively interfered with his potential of getting Mary to go on a date with him.
