Xenophobia is fear of the alien; oikophobia is fear of the familiar: "the disposition, in any conflict, to side with 'them' against 'us', and the felt need to denigrate the customs, culture and institutions that are identifiably 'ours.' " British philosopher Roger Scruton
Usually a male who makes you feel special. He makes you feel like you are the only girl in his life, when really he is trying to use you and then throw you out and get another female to use.