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It's not you it's me 

A phrase used when terminating a relationship. Usually used to confuse and/or draw attention away from the real reason the relationship is ending, because of the emotionally painful nature of the reason.

Rarely used in person, more often used in phone converstions, e-mails and voicemails.
He was a nice guy, but he was as good in bed as a cement block. So I called him up last night and told him it was over, but it wasn't him it was me.
It's not you it's me by eight March 29, 2004

it's not you, it's me. 

1)The biggest lie ever... truly means, "its not me, its you."
2)A warning sign for getting dumped.
3)A way to get out of a relationship while causing yourself the least amount of grief possible.
"We need to talk."
"About what John?"
"Sally... its not you... its me."
it's not you, it's me. by mara July 18, 2004

It's not you it's me 

Person 1: I'm so so sorry but I can't have a relationship right now. It's not you it's me
Person 2: that's total bullshit. Just break up with me in an honest way and don't lie

it's not you, it's me 

I no longer find you attractive, but I can't say that because then I'll feel guilty. Oh, by the way, good riddance.
Girl: Listen, Harry, we need to talk...

Harry: huhuhuh whatfor sexy hot girl?

Girl: Look... it's not you, it's me. I don't think this is working out.
it's not you, it's me by billus April 1, 2004

it's not you, it's me 

female slang for: It is you.
after the bitch chased me down the street with a knife, i told her "it's not you, it's me"

it's not you, it's me 

A great excuse for breaking up with someone while trying not to hurt their feelings.
Famously used by George in Seinfeld, he gets upset when he found out someone used his line and claims he invented it.
"Dan I really like you but I think it's over between us."
"What? Why? What did I do?"
"It's not you, it's me."
it's not you, it's me by Sarah July 18, 2004
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Respectfully 

Precedes or follows either a gratuitously disrespectful or honest remark, originated in New York City. Used in similar fashion to "no offense" or "to be honest," interchangeably.
Ya mans is wild buns, respectfully. Respectfully he's washed.

After school, The Modells on Jamaica Ave was active. Respectfully.
Respectfully by john quan the first December 20, 2020
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You met me at a very Chinese time in my life

A moment in time where you feel distinctly Chinese over all other things.
Dante: "I wish I could be Nigerian, but I can't because I'm Chinese. You met me at a very Chinese time in my life."
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Adjective. Used to describe persons who have adjusted or altered their lifestyle for environmental reasons. Crunchy persons tend to be politically strongly left-leaning and may be additionally but not exclusively categorized as vegetarians, vegans, eco-tarians, conservationists, environmentalists, neo-hippies, tree huggers, nature enthusiasts, etc.

Also used to describe establishments where alternative foods and products are sold, i.e. natural food stores.

Modified derivative of granola.
"I need more crunchy guys in my life. I'm so tired of dating preppy metrosexual assholes."

"I'm heading out to the crunchy store to pick up some fair trade chocolate and tea tree oil, do you need anything?"
crunchy by EBC July 11, 2007
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A group of people, typically women, searching through someone’s digital footprint in order to find more information about that person.
Susie wasn’t sure if her new Hinge match was a creep, so she assembled Galantir and they found out he used to post slurs on gaming forums.
Galantir by Ge-sus September 22, 2026
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murderhobo 

In a tabletop game, a murderhobo is a player who murders NPCs indiscriminately. This is normally derogatory, referring to a player who totally ignores quests, dialog, backstory, trade, world building etc.

The term is most common with Dungeons and Dragons, but it can be applied to most RPGs where the player is allowed to kill most quest-giving NPCs and NPC traders. E.g. Elder Scrolls, Fallout, Divinity original sin.
DM: The sad little orphan girl tugs at Steve's trenchcoat to get his attention, and ask for help saving her pet dog from...
Steve: I'd like to roll a strength check against strangling the orphan.
Dave: I call dibs on the dog.
DM: You murderhobos disgust me.
murderhobo by Loup&S September 9, 2021
Word of the Day on September 22, 2026
In sales terms, a whale is a prospect that is significantly larger than an organization’s average customer.

Whales are large and extremely difficult to close. Due to their immense size, they are highly sought-after.

A whale is typically identified at first by a whale hunter on the sales team, but often requires cross-discipline participation in order to close; this includes assistance from operations, engineering, creative, client success, and business development teams.
"Shit...the sales director chewed me out on the sales call this morning. He's totally pissed that I have nothing in my pipeline. I've been focused on this one whale for so long that I haven't had time to prospect for normal-sized deals."
Whale by FQ_GFY February 3, 2020
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