1)The biggest lie ever... truly means, "its not me, its you."
2)A warning sign for getting dumped.
3)A way to get out of a relationship while causing yourself the least amount of grief possible.
"We need to talk."
"About what John?"
"Sally... its not you... its me."
by mara July 19, 2004
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A phrase used when terminating a relationship. Usually used to confuse and/or draw attention away from the real reason the relationship is ending, because of the emotionally painful nature of the reason.

Rarely used in person, more often used in phone converstions, e-mails and voicemails.
He was a nice guy, but he was as good in bed as a cement block. So I called him up last night and told him it was over, but it wasn't him it was me.
by eight March 29, 2004
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Person 1: I'm so so sorry but I can't have a relationship right now. It's not you it's me
Person 2: that's total bullshit. Just break up with me in an honest way and don't lie
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I no longer find you attractive, but I can't say that because then I'll feel guilty. Oh, by the way, good riddance.
Girl: Listen, Harry, we need to talk...

Harry: huhuhuh whatfor sexy hot girl?

Girl: Look... it's not you, it's me. I don't think this is working out.
by billus April 1, 2004
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female slang for: It is you.
after the bitch chased me down the street with a knife, i told her "it's not you, it's me"
by the Mad Shatter April 28, 2005
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A great excuse for breaking up with someone while trying not to hurt their feelings.
Famously used by George in Seinfeld, he gets upset when he found out someone used his line and claims he invented it.
"Dan I really like you but I think it's over between us."
"What? Why? What did I do?"
"It's not you, it's me."
by Sarah July 18, 2004
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A nice way 2 dump a boyfriend/girlfriend. Actually means It's not me it's you.
Look honey it's not you it's me.I don't wish to continue this relationship.
by Allie February 3, 2004
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