When you feel comfortable enough around somebody that you would feel comfortable taking your/their condom (penis "hat") off during intercourse, as opposed to a circumstantial sexual encounter.
Jason: "I've been thinking... maybe it's time for hats off?"
Monica: "Yeah, you're clean, but your pull-out game better be on point!"
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.