A domate is a person who is in a relationship or friendship where their partner is considered the dominant
one and they are the submissive. While it is usually considered sexual it does not have to be - nor is it strictly man to woman or woman to man. Women to women happen quite frequently while men to men can happen but not as often.
It also means that their partner will do what their dominant
one tells them, often without question, to or to accept humiliating verbal insults or to be placed in demeaning situations that
test their boundaries from time to time to remind them of their submissive position with them.
Psychologically the domate is usually somewhat
immature, easily amused, childish, and has few boundaries. While their mate is
Alpha,
mature, reserved, and will confront usually quite boldly and with anger anything or anyone that threatens to break up this relationship.
While their dominant mate can be
mean and demeaning to their domate most of the time, in
truth, they really do look out for them and keep them safe and secure, but they would never admit that to them.
"Wow ! Did you see what Gina was wearing to school this morning ? So
kinky ! I sure would like to be her
best friend !"
"Forget it,
Mandy is her domate. And I doubt you want to be her friend on that account."