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tolyamory 

Coined by Dan Savage. “Tolerating polyamory”. To be in a polyamorous relationship but only tolerating it. Not to be confused with “poly under duress” or PUD.
Hilary resigned herself to tolyamory with Bill.
tolyamory by Mac8585 March 31, 2024
A relationship style or mindset where a person is tolerant of polyamory but does not necessarily participate in it themselves. Someone who practices tolyamory may support or accept a partner having multiple romantic or intimate relationships while personally remaining monogamous or emotionally exclusive.
“I’m not poly, but I’m okay with my partner dating other people — I guess you could call that tolyamory.”

“They have a tolyamorous relationship; she’s supportive of his other partners but prefers to stay monogamous herself.”

tolyamorous (adjective): “He identifies as tolyamorous.”

tolyamorist (noun): “She’s a tolyamorist who prefers one-on-one emotional bonds.”
Tolyamory by Infinit3mber October 21, 2025

Polyamory 

“I have duped my boyfriend into polyamory because I’m too afraid to break up with him but still want someone else’s dick”
Polyamory by ObtuseGoose June 9, 2022

Polyamory 

"Did you hear Jacob and Amy are into polyamory?"

"So they're cheating on each other."

"Not they're not! Unlike cheating, they are both aware of their partner's sexual activities. They also set up rules to avoid jealousy and heart break."

"That's just cheating with extra steps."
Polyamory by jellyjones January 23, 2020

polyamory v

A polyamory relationship in which two or more people are in a romantic relationship with the same person without being in a romantic relationship with each other
A polyamory v relationship between those three means they share one but done romance each other.
polyamory v by PolyGirl12 April 6, 2017

Kitchen table polyamory 

Kitchen table is a style of polyamory that places emphasis on family-style connections among the people involved in a network, whether they're romantically involved with each other or not. The name comes from the idea that everyone involved would be comfortable gathering around the kitchen table for a meal.
Friend: where's hubby tonight

Me: he is out at his gf's place

Friend: you're cool with his gf?

Me: yeah we practice kitchen table polyamory
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proper lad 

a lad that is such a lad that he is a proper lad
person1:did you see bob
person2: ya he was a proper lad
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The number of years you are still sexually active
While our lifespan is the number of years we will live, our healthspan is the number of healthy years we will have and our sexspan is is the number of years we will continue to be healthy enough to continue having an active sex life.
sexspan by Dr Kat April 21, 2022
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A lighthearted reaction upon receiving disappointing news of some sort. Usually something that isn't a particularly a big deal, esp. when it primarily affects someone else - sort of a mild schadenfreude. Sometimes doubled or tripled, and possibly said in a sing-songy voice for added comedic effect to imitate a muted trumpet, which is how the meme originated.
You didn't get any napkins with your takeout pork fried rice? Womp womp.
womp by 175623226 November 3, 2011
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When your wife’s boyfriend let you sleep past 8pm 😎😎
Wife’s boyfriend: You have 5 more minutes
Me: Poggers!
Poggers by Just_Charles April 14, 2020
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