Coined by Dan Savage. “Tolerating polyamory”. To be in a polyamorous relationship but only tolerating it. Not to be confused with “poly under duress” or PUD.
by Mac8585 March 31, 2024
Get the tolyamory mug.Relationship style that tolerates some nonmonogamy but does not aim for polyamory or multiple partners simultaneously
by HiKoality February 6, 2024
Get the tolyamory mug.A relationship style or mindset where a person is tolerant of polyamory but does not necessarily participate in it themselves. Someone who practices tolyamory may support or accept a partner having multiple romantic or intimate relationships while personally remaining monogamous or emotionally exclusive.
“I’m not poly, but I’m okay with my partner dating other people — I guess you could call that tolyamory.”
“They have a tolyamorous relationship; she’s supportive of his other partners but prefers to stay monogamous herself.”
tolyamorous (adjective): “He identifies as tolyamorous.”
tolyamorist (noun): “She’s a tolyamorist who prefers one-on-one emotional bonds.”
“They have a tolyamorous relationship; she’s supportive of his other partners but prefers to stay monogamous herself.”
tolyamorous (adjective): “He identifies as tolyamorous.”
tolyamorist (noun): “She’s a tolyamorist who prefers one-on-one emotional bonds.”
by Infinit3mber October 21, 2025
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