A brakpan cigar is when you take a dump in or on someone's mouth while that person is sleeping. You then set your feaces on fire. Usually used by South Africans on people they dislike.
I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me, so I gave her a big brakpan cigar.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.