'Sensitivity' is an overused word;
one may do better by calling the ideal male '
sweet' and 'kind' or 'nice.' One thing to note, however, is that women, while they are ultimately the ones who decide with whom they are in a relationship, only decide among what may be considered applicants.
This is where
one enters into a conflict. Women want '
sweet' and 'kind' men; however, these men are generally too '
sweet' and 'kind' to actually pursue a comparable girlfriend, because said girlfriend will be simultaneously worried about 'not being good enough' or 'being a
bitch' to the '
sweet' and 'kind' male -- and so they manage to dissuade the considerate male, who doesn'
t want to press the issue with an uncertain girl for fear of being forceful or insensitive.
This is, coincidentally, why assholes or bold males tend to get girls; they are routinely more forceful in pursuing their interests, and so girls are convinced to date them despite that they would prefer other types of males.
(
sweet example)
"Bobby, I'
d like to -- but I'm really not sure I could give you the sort of attention you deserve. I'd
hate to come across as a bitch..."
"Jenny, I wouldn't mind at all; any time would be cherished, but if you think otherwise...."
(arse example)
"Bobby, I'm really not sure. You've got sort of a bad reputation.."
"Don't worry about it, Jenny; y'know how those rumors go. Just try
one date. You'll love it."