'Sensitivity' is an overused word; one
may do better by calling the ideal male 'sweet' and 'kind' or 'nice.' One thing to note, however, is that women, while they are ultimately the ones who decide with whom they are in a
relationship, only decide among what
may be considered applicants.
This is where one enters into a conflict. Women want 'sweet' and 'kind'
men; however, these
men are generally too 'sweet' and 'kind' to actually pursue a comparable girlfriend, because said girlfriend will be simultaneously worried about 'not being good enough' or 'being a bitch' to the 'sweet' and 'kind' male -- and so they manage to dissuade the considerate male, who doesn't want to press the issue with an uncertain
girl for fear of being forceful or insensitive.
This is, coincidentally, why assholes or bold males tend to get
girls; they are routinely more forceful in pursuing their interests, and so girls are convinced to date them despite that they would prefer other types of males.
(sweet example)
"Bobby, I'
d like to -- but I'm really not sure I could give you the sort of attention you deserve. I'd hate to come across as a bitch..."
"
Jenny, I wouldn't mind at all; any
time would be cherished, but if you think otherwise...."
(arse example)
"Bobby, I'm really not sure. You've got sort of a bad reputation.."
"
Don't worry about it, Jenny; y'know how those rumors go. Just try one date. You'll love it."