I coined this in 1990
It means you got ripped off !!
Not the gay term "He is a buttslammer".
I also coined that in 1989 !!
No kidding .
I lived in west hollywood at my sisters place at the time.
Scotty "That motor bike you bought was a total buttslamm"!!
You Got "Buttslammed" !!on that deal.
Ripped off
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”