To hide the true identity of your same sex partner, by giving them a name of the opposite sex as a cover up, which sounds similar or begins with the same letter.
To be pulling a Ben, is to use another name for your partner. Example; to use Ben instead of Karen, or Jessica, instead of James.
To “pull a Ben”, is to love (become obsessed with) someone for four years, that you’ve never physically met, and then complain about how it’s hurting you, when you refuse to move on.