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a date-like activity or activities (i.e. movies, dinner) performed by a guy and a girl together, who have no interest in each other and no intent to date. These activities are performed strictly as friends, although these not-dates can be segues into the awkward phase before actual dating commences.

For other people, distinguishing between a date and a not-date is difficult, if not impossible. Thus, those who are on a not-date are often confused by other people that they are dating or vice versa.

In the base metaphor, a not-date is the equivalent of sitting in the bleachers and watching the game.
Ex. 1:
Ryan: "So then Claire and I went to dinner and then watched a movie at my place."
Jake: "All right! So did you hit that?"
Ryan: "Hell no. It was a not-date."

Ex. 2:
(at a restaurant)
Waiter: "Okay, you're total's going to be $23.44."
Jimmy: "Can you make those two separate orders?"
Waiter: "Sorry about that, I thought that you were on a date."
Jimmy: "No, we're friends. This is a not-date."
not-date by Dglgmut May 23, 2010
A not-date is a sad excuse for people who can't decide whether they are going to get some or not. Often misused for DWOB.
That guy is so sad, going on all of those not-dates, I mean, DWOBs
not-date by PaulyD89 March 3, 2011

Not A Date 

Usually prounouced NAD. n-ah-d as in the second half of gonads.

1) A setting where 2 people meet usually prior to a date; at coffee or ice cream to evaluate the other person preceding an actual date
2) A social meeting where 2 people may appear to be on a date (either at dinner, miniature golfing, a movie, ect) but if asked will deny the “date” and state with great intensity “we are just friends”
Shelley: How was the NAD (Not A Date) last night?
Sam: Oh we went for ice cream, but she has 4 cats . . . .
Shelley: are you going to go see a movie with her tonight
Sam: she has 4 cats . . . .
Shelley: so I guess I am going to have some sort of mental breakdown that will prevent you from going on a the date
Sam: not one, not two, but 4 cats . .

Shelley: but you keep NADding her!
Sam: it’s a really good not a relationship
Not A Date by Bessie Lou November 6, 2009
The word 'flag' as pronounced by people with thick Belfast accents. The term is a perfect encapsulation of the disproportionate and overblown reaction to the removal of the Union Jack (as in 'de fleg') from above City Hall in Belfast. Where previously it had flown for 365 days per year, it is now flown on 17 designated days of the year - in line with many other British cities.

The event caused a portion of the Protestant community ('fleggers') to make international pricks of themselves as they proceeded to wreck the fucking place, claiming it was another erosion of a 'British' identity they perceive to have been under attack since the horrifying spectre of equality reared its head in Northern Ireland.

The word 'fleg' - and indeed 'fleggers' - fittingly describes a section of humanity unconcerned with knowledge, reality or the vagaries of the English language. Like America's tea-baggers they are ruled by instinct, fear and paranoia with a side dish of rampant bigotry and startling ignorance of the world around them.
"Wat de fuck like! The taigs got de fleg took down! Let's wreck de fuckin place! No surrender!"

"De fleg has been took down! Before ye know it there'll be a united Ireland! Attack Short Strand! God Save The Queen!"
Fleg by OnionFleg August 9, 2013
Word of the Day on July 18, 2026
To take something small, that doesn't quite qualify as a theft. Probably from the Danish "skæv" or the Dutch "scheef", both of which are pronounced similarly, meaning "askew, or not quite right'. To change an item's ownership without permission, but only something small and of little worth.
"I skeefed an apple off the neighbor's tree." "I skeefed some chips outta your bag when you looked away." "Don't skeef my chair when I go to the bathroom."
Skeef by kachinaflonk July 16, 2026
Word of the Day on July 17, 2026

Hair spider

A tight, tangled knot of loose hair and lint that forms inside clothing during the clothes dryer cycle. It typically hides inside garments, causing an annoying lump or a phantom tickling sensation against the skin until it is found or falls out onto the floor during folding.
I was folding my clothes and a huge hair spider fell out onto my hand
Hair spider by Kmorsels July 15, 2026
Word of the Day on July 16, 2026