Confirming plans only to then bail out last minute or go completely missing with a suspect/weak/epic excuse.
Also to pull a 'leonard'
"Where's Nick? He seemed so up for it and has been banging on for weeks that he was 100% going to be here but he's not here."
"Ah, he's probably leonarding / pulling a leonard"
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”