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Wears the pants

1. Refers to the person in charge.
2. The phrase stems from the time of patriarchy when men went out and worked to provide for their families while women tended the home. Men wore pants while women were more likely to wear dresses. The men of that time were seen as the leaders of their families.
3. An insult to one memember of a relationship, usually the male, who has lost or willingly given the majority of control of the relationship to the other.
Ben: Hey, what happened to Joe? His phone rang and the next thing I know he was gone.

Jake: Oh that would have been his wife Donna calling and telling him to come home and put his dishwashing skirt on. She wears the pants in that house.
Wears the pants by Justaineer December 19, 2008
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Wear the Pants 

1. To "wear the pants" in a relationship is to be the person in charge of the relationship, whether that being the man or the woman, even though it is usually the man.
1. Jane "Bitch, go do the laundry"
Derek "No!"
Jane "Do it, I wear the pants in this relationship!"
Derek *sigh* "Oi doggy, Ill go do it"
Wear the Pants by EthanChrist March 29, 2010

Wear the Pants 

(verb)
1. To own each situation like a farmer owns a donkey
(noun)
1. A robust and compelling call to manhood, not unlike a Viking blowing his horn from a mountain top or submarine captain ordering his men to fire torpedoes
2. See Mansformation
"Put down the plastic fork, step away from the salad bar and wear the pants, Thomas."
Wear the Pants by Doctor Whittles September 3, 2009

men wear pants in the relationship, but women control the zipper 

a) a synonym phrase for "there are two sides (or more) to every story"

b) (forensic/criminal investigations, often used sarcastically): if you can't see the evidence, it doesn't mean it doesn't or can't exist.

c) (legal system): assuming that the defendant is not so severely mentally ill that even medications won't help, there is/should be/must be a motive to every crime.

d) a phrase meaning, everybody involved in the judicial system has their own motivations for acting the way they do.
based on the definitions above, especially definition d) CNN features a show called Death Row Stories because some prosecutors still need to learn what the phrase men wear pants in the relationship, but women control the zipper means.
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