A person or group of people within the LGBTQ+ community who try to control, ridicule, or invalidate other people within the LGBTQ+ community, typically targetting certain terms and labels.
They believe that the term in question "isn't real" OR the person in question isn't "queer enough" to pass.
Their sense of entitlement feeds them the fantasy that their status as a mainstream queer gives them control over how other people can and can't identify.
They believe that the term in question "isn't real" OR the person in question isn't "queer enough" to pass.
Their sense of entitlement feeds them the fantasy that their status as a mainstream queer gives them control over how other people can and can't identify.
Example 1:
Panphobe: "Pansexuality is just woke bisexuality"
Pansexual person: "there's a lot more to the spectrum of gender, sex, and expression than your narrow gaytekeeper microscope shows you."
Example 2:
Enbyphobe: "Nonbinary people aren't real because there are only 2 genders. Liek did u go to 3rd grade biology???!!1!"
Nonbinary person: "If you weren't a gaytekeeper, you'd know that college level biology says differently."
Example 3:
Transphobe:"TrAnStReNdErS hahA I'm so funny please laugh I need constant attention."
Person 1: "please be kind to me, I'm a person too-"
Person 2: "Don't even bother, they're a gaytekeeper."
Person 1: "No..."
Person 2: "They're too far gone."
Example 4:
Polyphobe: "Polyamory isn't inherently queer."
Polyamorous person: "I'm sorry, are you poly?"
Polyphobe: "No but I'm a lesbian and-"
Polyamorous Person: "So you're just a gaytekeeper..?"
Panphobe: "Pansexuality is just woke bisexuality"
Pansexual person: "there's a lot more to the spectrum of gender, sex, and expression than your narrow gaytekeeper microscope shows you."
Example 2:
Enbyphobe: "Nonbinary people aren't real because there are only 2 genders. Liek did u go to 3rd grade biology???!!1!"
Nonbinary person: "If you weren't a gaytekeeper, you'd know that college level biology says differently."
Example 3:
Transphobe:"TrAnStReNdErS hahA I'm so funny please laugh I need constant attention."
Person 1: "please be kind to me, I'm a person too-"
Person 2: "Don't even bother, they're a gaytekeeper."
Person 1: "No..."
Person 2: "They're too far gone."
Example 4:
Polyphobe: "Polyamory isn't inherently queer."
Polyamorous person: "I'm sorry, are you poly?"
Polyphobe: "No but I'm a lesbian and-"
Polyamorous Person: "So you're just a gaytekeeper..?"
by Cinnamopumpkin June 30, 2021
Get the Gaytekeeper mug.Someone who tries to control or criticize people for not being queer enough even though it is their sexual orientation. Gatekeeping gayness.
"There is no way you are gay. The way you dress is SO straight!"
"Not every gay person is 'queer eye' stop being such a gaytekeeper."
"You're right. Not all gay people are carbon copies of each other."
"Not every gay person is 'queer eye' stop being such a gaytekeeper."
"You're right. Not all gay people are carbon copies of each other."
by Twooof July 27, 2024
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When someone is an asshole enough to tell you that you don't have enough qualities to like what you want to like or be what you want to be, solely based on their opinions and experiences, even if they don't know as much about what said person aspires to like / be.
Person 1: I really like (insert band/artist here)
Person 2: Ok name every song, even the unreleased ones, how many words are in each song, and recite them word for word.
Person 1: um..
Person Two: FAKE FAN. You don't like them.
If you didn't pick up on this, Person 2 is a Gatekeeper
Person 2: Ok name every song, even the unreleased ones, how many words are in each song, and recite them word for word.
Person 1: um..
Person Two: FAKE FAN. You don't like them.
If you didn't pick up on this, Person 2 is a Gatekeeper
by Ikindofhatemyself December 29, 2020
Get the Gatekeeper mug.1) One who devalues other’s opinions on something by claiming they’re not entitled to the opinion because they’re not qualified, the rightful decision-maker, a part of a particular group, etc.
2) One who denies parental rights by limiting the parent’s interactions or decisions with their own child.
2) One who denies parental rights by limiting the parent’s interactions or decisions with their own child.
Maria told Jeff he wasn’t allowed to be in Spanish Club because he wasnt a native speaker.
The mother was a gatekeeper when she told her ex husband he was not allowed to take their child to Disney World because she didn’t want him driving that far with her child. “I am the mother and I make the decisions. You are not taking my child that far away from me,” she exclaimed.
The mother was a gatekeeper when she told her ex husband he was not allowed to take their child to Disney World because she didn’t want him driving that far with her child. “I am the mother and I make the decisions. You are not taking my child that far away from me,” she exclaimed.
by Scrodom July 7, 2018
Get the Gatekeeper mug.If any player on a soccer team is supposed to be gay, it’s mostly likely it’ll be a goalkeeper. Periodt.
L: Oh, do you know that, if talkin about soccer team, goalkeeper is most likely to be the most gay-ish person.
M: Fr?
L: Yuh. They r called gaykeepers.
M: Fr?
L: Yuh. They r called gaykeepers.
by babybye July 17, 2020
Get the Gaykeeper mug.The same basic definition of a gatekeeper, except these control the time speech is made and not the speech itself. Time and space in a newspaper are similar. Therefor, gatekeepers of time can also be gatekeepers of space.
The television station not only gate keeps the information, but they are also the "gatekeepers of time." Or, the sales department at the radio station sells drive time at a rate I can not afford for my speech. Therefor, I must speak at a time not of my choosing.
In the case of the print medium, gatekeepers of space control "where" and "what size" my speech may take up, if any. Cost is also a factor in the space time equation of time/space gatekeeping.
In the case of the print medium, gatekeepers of space control "where" and "what size" my speech may take up, if any. Cost is also a factor in the space time equation of time/space gatekeeping.
by Bob F. Dowd April 26, 2010
Get the Gatekeepers of Time mug.A kind of gatekeeping specifically found within the LGBTQ+ community (this could relate to either gender or sexual orientation).
"Nonbinary people don't belong in the trans community!"
"Stop fucking gatekeeping, Brenda,"
"Or rather, gaytekeeping ;)))"
"I'm bi and this is my boyfriend ton-"
"Oh you're not allowed here if you're dating someone of the opposite gender. This is a queer safe-space."
"But I'm bi??? I'm still queer even though I'm dating a gu-"
"Not queer enough!"
"I'm a trans guy but sometimes I like to wear my old dresses... am I trans enough?"
"No! You're not actually trans."
"I'm a trans lesbian but I'm butch and sometimes I feel like I have to constantly prove to people that I am a woman."
"But you're not! You're not truly trans! Why transition if you're just going to act like a man anyway?"
"Straight couples shouldn't be allowed at pride!"
"But what if one or both of them are trans?"
"Or bi?"
"Or pan/omni?"
"Or ace?"
"Or aro?"
"Or demi?"
"Or maybe you just misgendered someone?"
"Or maybe they are cis and heterosexual and just are kind and true allies who want to show their support."
"The point is, stop gatekeeping. Pride isn't a place for negativity. Quite the contrary, it's a place for solidarity and support of one another."
Be kind to eachother, kids. We're in this together. Happy pride!
"Stop fucking gatekeeping, Brenda,"
"Or rather, gaytekeeping ;)))"
"I'm bi and this is my boyfriend ton-"
"Oh you're not allowed here if you're dating someone of the opposite gender. This is a queer safe-space."
"But I'm bi??? I'm still queer even though I'm dating a gu-"
"Not queer enough!"
"I'm a trans guy but sometimes I like to wear my old dresses... am I trans enough?"
"No! You're not actually trans."
"I'm a trans lesbian but I'm butch and sometimes I feel like I have to constantly prove to people that I am a woman."
"But you're not! You're not truly trans! Why transition if you're just going to act like a man anyway?"
"Straight couples shouldn't be allowed at pride!"
"But what if one or both of them are trans?"
"Or bi?"
"Or pan/omni?"
"Or ace?"
"Or aro?"
"Or demi?"
"Or maybe you just misgendered someone?"
"Or maybe they are cis and heterosexual and just are kind and true allies who want to show their support."
"The point is, stop gatekeeping. Pride isn't a place for negativity. Quite the contrary, it's a place for solidarity and support of one another."
Be kind to eachother, kids. We're in this together. Happy pride!
by Nooneim Portant June 12, 2018
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