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Gaytekeeping 

A kind of gatekeeping specifically found within the LGBTQ+ community (this could relate to either gender or sexual orientation).
"Nonbinary people don't belong in the trans community!"

"Stop fucking gatekeeping, Brenda,"

"Or rather, gaytekeeping ;)))"

"I'm bi and this is my boyfriend ton-"

"Oh you're not allowed here if you're dating someone of the opposite gender. This is a queer safe-space."

"But I'm bi??? I'm still queer even though I'm dating a gu-"

"Not queer enough!"

"I'm a trans guy but sometimes I like to wear my old dresses... am I trans enough?"

"No! You're not actually trans."

"I'm a trans lesbian but I'm butch and sometimes I feel like I have to constantly prove to people that I am a woman."

"But you're not! You're not truly trans! Why transition if you're just going to act like a man anyway?"

"Straight couples shouldn't be allowed at pride!"

"But what if one or both of them are trans?"

"Or bi?"

"Or pan/omni?"

"Or ace?"

"Or aro?"

"Or demi?"

"Or maybe you just misgendered someone?"

"Or maybe they are cis and heterosexual and just are kind and true allies who want to show their support."

"The point is, stop gatekeeping. Pride isn't a place for negativity. Quite the contrary, it's a place for solidarity and support of one another."

Be kind to eachother, kids. We're in this together. Happy pride!
Gaytekeeping by Nooneim Portant June 12, 2018

Gatekeeping 

When someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity.
"I love punk bands like Green Day!"
"Ugh, they're not even punk. They totally sold out."

"Oh man, I love Harry Potter. I am such a geek!"
"Hardly. Talk to me when you're into theoretical physics."

"Erika Moen is my favorite queer cartoonist."
"She's not queer, she married a man!"
"Quit your gatekeeping. No one died and made you Queen of the Gays!"
Gatekeeping by sarahalyse June 2, 2012

Gatekeeping 

Gatekeeping is to make your interests exclusive in order to protect them from becoming “mainstream”
“Gaslight, Gatekeeping, Girlboss”
Gatekeeping by Suzanne Keller January 13, 2022

Gatekeeping 

A word used to describe when someone sets a standard/limit on what someone must do to call themselves a 'true fan' of something/someone.
Joe: So what TV shows do you like?
Erin: Well, I'm a huge fan of Doctor Who. I also...
Joe: Doctor Who? I LOVE that show. When did you start watching.
Erin: Back in 2005 when the show was restarted.
Joe: Ah, you see, I was watching the classic series long before then. You can't really call yourself a true fan.

Erin: But I have a ton of the merchandise, and I've met David Tennant...
Joe: Oh, you're a fan definitely but not a proper fan. We've been there since long before the BBC revived the show.
Ted: Dude, stop gatekeeping the show. A fan is a fan. You don't need to set a standard.
Gatekeeping by WatcherMark October 27, 2018

Gatekeeping 

When someone uses a hobby or interest as a means of elevating themselves above others to give oneself a sense of being superior transforming their passion or knowledge about a particular subject into an ugly tool of self-inflation.
-GoodGuyFitz 2019
Eric Vivian Mathews is gatekeeping all the time.
Gatekeeping by TOLOLOLOLOLO August 9, 2019

Gaykeeping 

Similar to Gatekeeping, the act of shaming, belittling, or alienating individuals from the LGBT+ and wider queer communities on the premise of "not being gay/queer enough".

It most commonly happens to bi/pansexual people currently in a heterosexual relationship, but can affect others such as the genderqueer, or even just someone who rejected another gay.
"Don't you just hate Gaykeeping?"
"Oh man, I know right? The other day this girl called me a fake ass lesbian because of my boyfriend, even though I told her that I'm Bi"
"Ridiculous"
Gaykeeping by Anntire July 12, 2018

Gatekeeping 

When someone takes it upon themselves to decide who has access to something
Gatekeeping is literally just:

YOU'RE NOT A REAL (insert something here) IF YOU DON’T (insert completely arbitrary thing here)!!!1!1!11!
Gatekeeping by KomaKing March 12, 2019
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Wife’s boyfriend: You have 5 more minutes
Me: Poggers!
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Oblication 

A vacation, feeling more like an obligation, that involves visiting or staying with family.
So Joe where are you taking the kids for spring break vacation? We are going on an oblication to Boca to visit my mother-in-law.
Oblication by kimmerr May 5, 2011
Word of the Day on October 25, 2026

Surf Dracula Syndrome 

A phenomenon in film/television series, most notably streaming series, where the main premise is drawn out to such a point that it takes an entire season or more to get the parts of the series the audience is actually interested in seeing.

For example, if a series is titled "Surf Dracula," a majority of viewers would tune in expecting to see Dracula surfing by the first or second episode. However, the entire first season would instead be tedious padding and backstory before finally ending with Dracula surfing in the last five minutes of the season finale.
I watched "Smallville" on Netflix the other day. Dude, it was ten seasons of filler before he finally flew! Major Surf Dracula Syndrome!
Word of the Day on October 24, 2026

Northstarring

Finding your way back to the truth by fixing on one verified fact and working out from there, the way you navigate by the North Star when everything around you is spinning.
Rumours were flying everywhere, so she went northstarring — one checked fact at a time.
Northstarring by Light Bearer October 22, 2026
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