The visceral pain felt by a child, even an adult child, when his or her parent says or does something that is extremely uncool, embarrassing, or otherwise objectionable.
The feeling is at times similar to embarrassment but also can imply regret or disagreement with the parent’s behavior.
From the Yiddish “eltern” meaning parents and the German “Schmerzen” meaning pain, literally “parent pain.”
Timothy felt a deep pang of elternschmerz when he learned that his mother was using the same password for all her online accounts.
Veronica was overcome by elternschmerz upon learning that her parents had called her college dean to request a new roommate for her.
Tarik’s elternschmerz was unbearable when his father requested steak in a vegan restaurant.
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”
Someone who is addicted to obtaining money and building wealth. A money addict and fanatic. Breadheads often work more than one full-time job, and some even participate in illicit activities to "obtain the bread".