Originating from lyrics in Ice-T's song "
Don't Hate the Playa", it was taken as a motto by the Pick-Up/Seduction community as a way of saying "
don't hate the
guy who's using seduction technics, hate the system that made him do it".
It is both a justification and critic of the
men-women social (and some would
say biological) dynamics, that entices
men (and sometimes women) learning and using highly elaborate methods, sometimes
seen as manipulation or social engineering technics, for the main purpose of seducing a women (or man).
It is often justified as a mean to one's end by the argument that "women are wired either biologically or socially such a way that, you HAVE to follow or use particular steps or methods, either naturally or by learning them, in order to seduce a women". Some
people going further argument that "women have no choice in the way their brain and emotion are biologically wired, meaning they have no choice in the way they respond to
men and seduction, so
men have sometimes no choice but to apply these seductions methods of which the practice is called The Game".