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Don't hate the player, hate the game

Don't blame the person for finding out a way to beat the system , blame the system for being beatable
Person 1: WAIT, WHAT!? HE'S NOT ALLOWED TO DO THAT! IT'S NOT FAIR!
Person 2:Well it doesn't say you can't do that.
Person 1:But it's not fair
Person 2: Don't hate the player, hate the game

Don't hate the player hate the game 

Another way of saying don't blame me; this is how the system works.
Don't hate the player hate the game ... Or society made me do it, or the system is flawed and I've figured out how to work it, or everyone else is cheating too, or I hope I don't go to prison.

Don't hate the player, hate the game. 

Ex 1:
If the game is forced on the individuals required to "play" it... Such as war or an area in conflict etc. Using tactics to win or survive may not always be fair or morally right. In this instance, hating the player is useless and the quotes logic seems to ring true. This also covers situations where the rules say you can do certain things, the rules are followed and the other players just don't like that you are able or competent at taking advantage of and succeeding at the game.
However...
Ex 2:
If the game is not forced, there is no situation requiring life threatening survival choices or there was not agreement to start a game with certain parameters .. This saying is used to absolve someone of the act of wrong doing to another by convincing either or both the perpetrator and victim that there was no other choice. Fairness, rules , laws and social norms seem to get lumped into this version of the definition and it's implied that the victim is wrong for holding the perpetrator responsible for their actions. More specifically, calling life a game and using this quote to avoid responsibility for being unfair, deceitful or cheating on purpose and existing outside laws, rules and social norms.
Don't hate the player, hate the game.

Ex 1:
We were at war, I did what I had to do. Don't hate me, hate that our country had to go to war.

Ex 2:
We work in an office with no cameras and loose rules on handling theft. Don't hold me responsible for stealing your things, hate the office for letting me get away with it.

Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game

Something a cunt says to justify cunty behavior.
John: "I fucked your girl."
Dill: "What the Fuck?"
John: "Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game."

Don't hate the player hate the game 

If someone (the player) is good at something (the game), don't hate them for it, hate the thing they are good at, because you arent good at or even in the game.

The word player used in this sentence can be confused with the sexual definition of a player.
Person beaten in basketball: "get the fuck out of here with that bullshit"

Winner: "don't hate the player hate the game"

Don't hate the player, hate the game

Originating from lyrics in Ice-T's song "Don't Hate the Playa", it was taken as a motto by the Pick-Up/Seduction community as a way of saying "don't hate the guy who's using seduction technics, hate the system that made him do it".

It is both a justification and critic of the men-women social (and some would say biological) dynamics, that entices men (and sometimes women) learning and using highly elaborate methods, sometimes seen as manipulation or social engineering technics, for the main purpose of seducing a women (or man).

It is often justified as a mean to one's end by the argument that "women are wired either biologically or socially such a way that, you HAVE to follow or use particular steps or methods, either naturally or by learning them, in order to seduce a women". Some people going further argument that "women have no choice in the way their brain and emotion are biologically wired, meaning they have no choice in the way they respond to men and seduction, so men have sometimes no choice but to apply these seductions methods of which the practice is called The Game".
- "Man you really played hard to get with this girl"
- "Well don't hate the player, hate the game"
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