Idealization 

Idealization is a form of an emotional state when you love or adore someone, you mistakenly believe that he/she has way more positives compare to negatives.

You may idealize a druggie, believing that other than the drug abuse pattern of that person, he is actually amazing. You believe that actually he could be very successful, handsome or calm. This is one of the most common moronic idealization example of our popular culture.

OR you may idealize and fall in love with a girl who has been victimized in her entire life and the world treated her so unfairly, thats why she is so miserable and disfunctional in her daily life. You may want to believe that, she actually could be an amazing princess. NO, moron. She has a pattern of living that way, and even if nobody treats her that way, she will create that environment for herself by attracting dramatic negative energy around her and its not even a conscious process.

Summarized : Idealization is a powerful drug.

A: Hey Kelly, I heard that your boyfriend cheated on you again then he instantly apologized and you have forgiven her for 13th time. ... Again. Whats up with that?
K: Look, He is an amazing guy, but he just has a high sexual appetite, ok? He is smart and funny and alittle bit dorky. I love him no matter what he does and I can live with it..
A: That's good. Keep doing it. You are high on idealization rAtard.

Idealization by tonuk January 19, 2011

Empathetic Suicide Idealization 

Empathetic Suicide Idealization is wanting, thinking, or acting on committing suicide but fearing how others may react to your death or caring about how they perceive you before/during/after committing suicide.

Guy 1: I love my family but I don’t want to leave them grieving whatever they saw in me.

Guy 2: You are experiencing Empathetic Suicide Idealization you want to die but can't stand the fact that people will be affected and grieve your loss.

Empathetic Suicide Idealization by ROTHOBONE February 4, 2023

idealizationship

A type of relationship where you've created an image of someone you're interested in that fits your own personal desires yet is not true to who they actually are as a person.

"Yeah she just got out of an idealizationship, turns out in reality he's a piece of shit"

idealizationship by oikuzu November 3, 2022

Idealie 

The ideal woman, she is perfect. There is nobody in the world who compares to her. You stare at her in math class and you know that she must be yours. Typically a short asian girl. She is the most beautiful girl in the world. She has the most adorable laugh, and she has the prettiest eyes. She makes you smile when all you wanna do is cry. She is perfect, in every way possible. She is the one for you.

Oh my god bro I gotta have her, she’s an idealie.

Yeo, all I do is stare at Fae in math class, she’s so fucking gorgeous oml.

Idealie by bennnjiboo May 18, 2018

Refutation of the Idealized 

Basically any concrete aspect of reality which shatters the personal idealized image of a future scenario or occurrence, often one that is highly meaningful to the individual.

You see... while our minds often think in abstract simplistic ways, reality is often chaotic, abrupt, arbitrary, and outright disagrees with our ideals, thereby 'refuting' the idealized. Other times, reality can make your ideals seem hypocritical. It can be quite a sad and disappointing realization. It sometimes makes you want to lock yourself inside your own world even more, only to subject yourself to reality when needed or when you feel competent or wise enough.

An example of a 'refutation of the idealized' would be the idealized picture of a romantic relationship you've always dreamed about in your mind ever since you were a kid. This picture is then refuted later in your adult life when relationships gradually (or abruptly) show itself in a manner so complex and chaotic that your visionary mind simply cannot handle. This might make you want to give up relationships altogether. (remember this is just one example)

Of course, the solution is to gain wisdom and rewire our minds towards the principles of realism and cognitive-behavioral approaches, but we may not always be ready for this yet. We may never feel like we are. This self change will eventually come naturally; it should never come abruptly, as you might risk becoming a cynic and/or grow a machiavellian complex.

A reasonable dose of idealized quirky thinking is always healthy. Heck, even a couple spoonfuls more is good; it is what makes you ultimately you. Let realism guide you through life, but don't let it ever rule you.

Refutation of the Idealized by Mary Mary Quite The Contrarian December 30, 2021

Ephemeral Idealization Paradox

A literary device where a character's pursuit of an ideal or unattainable desire is intensified by its fleeting, transient nature. This paradoxical longing becomes more powerful and all-consuming precisely because the object of desire is perpetually elusive or only exists as a constructed ideal rather than a tangible reality.

Daniel's relentless pursuit of Michael is an embodiment of the Ephemeral Idealization Paradox, where his desire for her grows more obsessive precisely because the perfect version of her he envisions exists only in the shimmering, unreachable past.

Ephemeral Idealization Paradox by jiangjiangism March 25, 2025