Desolation
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Desolation
A feeling of chronic emptiness and loneliness. Abandonment of ourselves, and not listening to our own hopes and desires.
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
You might abandon yourself unintentionally or unknowingly because you’re striving for perfection or others’ approval. You might stop caring for yourself while focusing on other things you think are paramount to you. Abandoning ourselves can spark anxiety, depression, guilt and shame.
You may displace the feeling of sadness with emptiness. This kind of empty feeling comes with not caring about much, not being interested in things, not feeling fueled by anything in particular.
If this emptiness is because of a loved one’s passing, don’t get angry with yourself for grieving years later. Because it is agonizing to lose a loved one, and though the loss changes shape over time, it never becomes OKAY that the person died… In that case you learn to live life alongside that hole of missing that person.
Sometimes, the hole forms because you missed out on love while you were growing up. This doesn’t mean you didn’t have a loving family. There are just certain kinds of love .
Tell yourself positive things.
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
Dont focus on failures.
Try not to minimize what you're feeling.
Avoid behaviours or addictions that you think avoid your feelings.
Don't blame yourself or feel guilt about things that are out of your control.
Show yourself compassion like you would with a close friend or family member.
Commend yourself.
Desolation will pass...
Desolation by _The Secret_ August 14, 2019
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a desolation: Describes most inner city areas or major British conurbations. Robbed of individuality by retailing corporations, bent politics, comprehensive education and architectural vandals over a period of decades. More atmosphere on the lunar surface, somewhat less ineteresting than watching paint dry.
a. 'This town is dead'.
b. 'It's a desolation of a place. Let's go to Cardiff before they finish that off too'.
b. 'It's a desolation of a place. Let's go to Cardiff before they finish that off too'.
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The name of a Bob Dylan song. Indicative of a place where people who do not fit into society(free thinkers and artists) go to live. It does not necessarily have a negative connotation. Often visited by posers attempting to look cool by hanging out with the real free thinkers.
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desolation of smaug by Aggroast April 16, 2017
Aj desolation
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Me: Yeah
Aj: GUY FIERI LOOKS LIKE A PORN STAR YOU CAN'T CHANGE MY MIND
Me: Yeah
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