Predatory tactic used seduce and ensnare an individual into a romantic relationship, a
con or even a cult.
Often used by gold-diggers, narcissists, and Dependent types to lock down their prey.
Women who attempt to
trap men with pregnancy and Desperate
Single Moms can be particularly good at it. It is usually part of any daddy baiting campaign.
Con artists, pimps, pedophiles and cults also use this strategy on their victims.
It’s a campaign of fake
love, affection, favors, flattery and usually lots of sex —designed to overwhelm the target and hide the love bomber’s true motives.
Love bombers also try to create a dependence by dangling the false promise of everything the target wants but lacks. It’s nearly impossible to detect or resist at the beginning, as it all feels too good to question, especially when a hot girl is the bomber. This kind of deception goes way beyond
ass-kissing and is usually intended for
long-term control of the target.
Victims of lovebombing often believe their
wife (or husband etc) has “changed” when the lovebombing stops. They will often
work harder to get back to the way things were. And the lovebomber can always dole out more when needed. Thus a cycle of abuse and control is established.
Example
1:
Michael Jackson: Hey little boy. Want a cookie? I have fresh baked
cookies at my house. And chimpanzees. And we can play all the time and do
whatever we want. Because you’re special.
Kid: Really?
Michael Jackson: Very
Kid’s mother: Get the fuck away from my kid. I see you lovebombing.
Example 2:
Kevin: I’m dating this girl who has a kid, but she’s sooooo good to me! She does my laundry, sucks my balls and tells me that I shouldn’t worry about losing the beergut. She Even says she doesn’t mind that I leave the seat up because that’s just what a man needs to do!
Todd: Are you using condoms with her?
Kevin: No! She went on the pill and lets me blow my load in her now! She says it’s a religious experience for her.
Todd: Are you really this clueless? She’s lovebombing you so you’ll take care of her
ass and the kids.
