Having a gender identity that is different from one's birth-assigned sex; synonymous with transgender.
Its antonym is homogender, which is synonymous with cisgender.
From the Greek prefix hetero-, meaning "different", and gender. Coined as a complementary word to "homogender", which was coined because some homogender people object to the term "cisgender". It remains to be seen whether these terms will be accepted.
Not every heterogender person knows their gender from birth. As a child, I didn't use to think I was a girl, but I was uncomfortable with looking like a boy and playing with other boys. I felt much more comfortable in the company of girls. It was only in adulthood that I realized what that had meant, and now I'm a proud heterogender woman.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.