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Don't hate the game, hate the playa 

When a guy gives up on a girl because she's banging someone else
Lalo: I could have had her.
Max: Bro, don't hate the game, hate the playa.

Don't hate the player, hate the game

Don't blame the person for finding out a way to beat the system , blame the system for being beatable
Person 1: WAIT, WHAT!? HE'S NOT ALLOWED TO DO THAT! IT'S NOT FAIR!
Person 2:Well it doesn't say you can't do that.
Person 1:But it's not fair
Person 2: Don't hate the player, hate the game

Don't hate the player hate the game 

Another way of saying don't blame me; this is how the system works.
Don't hate the player hate the game ... Or society made me do it, or the system is flawed and I've figured out how to work it, or everyone else is cheating too, or I hope I don't go to prison.

Don't hate the player, hate the game. 

Ex 1:
If the game is forced on the individuals required to "play" it... Such as war or an area in conflict etc. Using tactics to win or survive may not always be fair or morally right. In this instance, hating the player is useless and the quotes logic seems to ring true. This also covers situations where the rules say you can do certain things, the rules are followed and the other players just don't like that you are able or competent at taking advantage of and succeeding at the game.
However...
Ex 2:
If the game is not forced, there is no situation requiring life threatening survival choices or there was not agreement to start a game with certain parameters .. This saying is used to absolve someone of the act of wrong doing to another by convincing either or both the perpetrator and victim that there was no other choice. Fairness, rules , laws and social norms seem to get lumped into this version of the definition and it's implied that the victim is wrong for holding the perpetrator responsible for their actions. More specifically, calling life a game and using this quote to avoid responsibility for being unfair, deceitful or cheating on purpose and existing outside laws, rules and social norms.
Don't hate the player, hate the game.

Ex 1:
We were at war, I did what I had to do. Don't hate me, hate that our country had to go to war.

Ex 2:
We work in an office with no cameras and loose rules on handling theft. Don't hold me responsible for stealing your things, hate the office for letting me get away with it.

Don't Hate The Playa/Playette Hate The Game 

Do not fault the successful participant in a flawed system; try instead to discern and rebuke that aspect of its organization which allows or encourages the behavior that has provoked your displeasure.
Teacher: You have plagarized this essay.
Student: Don't hate the player; hate the game.

Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game

Something a cunt says to justify cunty behavior.
John: "I fucked your girl."
Dill: "What the Fuck?"
John: "Don't Hate the Player, Hate the Game."
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