D.F.I.T. = Dumpster Fire in Training. (See definition for Dumpster Fire.)
Visual example: If you were to see a teenage girl walking down the street smoking the wrong end of a cigarette, with one flip flop and one fuzzy boot, short-shorts modified to reveal her entire uterus for the world, wearing ridiculously over-sized bedazzled sunglasses, 6 colors of jacked-up make up, a cut-up wife beater top, and evidence of recent substance abuse visible from a distance...
That chick is a total dumpster fire in training!
Guy 1: "Woah... dude! Did you see that train wreck that just walked by?"
when you're holding up your phone and making faces at it, as though you are taking a selfie, but you're really taking a picture of the person across from you or the wall or anything else that seems interesting but you don't want to be caught dead taking a picture of.
This action is often made more convincing by wiggling the eyebrows or opening the mouth, to pretend you're trying to get a Snapchat filter to work.
FRIEND A: "Did you just take a stealthie of me?"
FRIEND B (turning phone around): "no I was just using snapchat's new filter, see?"
The grindset is a contemporary ideology of self-exploitation disguised as strength, deeply tied to the aesthetics of the “sigma male” and to new digital forms of patriarchy. It promotes the idea that human worth depends on productivity, economic success, absolute emotional control, and the ability to work endlessly, turning vulnerability, rest, community, and tenderness into signs of weakness. Beneath its rhetoric of discipline and power often lies a profound inability to relate healthily to pain, fragility, and human interdependence.
“That’s the grindset, brother. While weak men sleep and complain, sigma males stay disciplined, work in silence, suppress emotions, and build power while everyone else wastes time chasing comfort.”