Immediate family - the ability to be able to stay married to the same jerk for the duration, so that you children will be able to say the goodbyes at funerals showings when a loved one passes on.
Only a jerk would tell a grandchild that they can watch their grandmother suffer for months then not allow them to attend the viewing as it is for immediate family only.
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. PenguinBooks,1992. p. 38)