Immediate family - the ability to be able to stay married to the same jerk for the duration, so that you children will be able to say the goodbyes at funerals showings when a loved one passes on.
Only a jerk would tell a grandchild that they can watch their grandmother suffer for months then not allow them to attend the viewing as it is for immediate family only.
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.