When a woman is acting sheepish or timid about doing something, someone can inform that person, "To be a woman and grow a pair of tits".
This expression is derived from the term male colleagues would utter towards each other, if a member of the group is acting in a timid or sheepish manor regarding a certain situation, "Be a man and grow a pair of balls".
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.