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its when you look in the mirror and cant stand what you see. when you criticize everything you do, doubt every decision. its a thousand voices bullying you all the time and you cant make them go away because they are inside and honestly you agree with them anyway. when all you can see is mistakes and faults and you start wondering why anyone could like you or love you. its when you want to be everything your not.
when other people see beauty she just sees her faults, her mistakes. wow she thinks " so this is what self hate feels like"
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According to Washington, D.C., clinical psychologist Dana Harron, the things people hate about others are the things that they fear within themselves. She suggests thinking about the targeted group or person as a movie screen onto which we project unwanted parts of the self. The idea is, “I'm not terrible; you are.”

This phenomenon is known as projection, a term coined by Freud to describe our tendency to reject what we don’t like about ourselves. Psychologist Brad Reedy further describes projection as our need to be good, which causes us to project "badness" outward and attack it.
Self hate by ... Zjdbckdnznsjd September 5, 2019

Self hate sex 

When you ask a guy to hurt you, bite you, cut you, pull your hair, tie you up and throttle you but he does it like a bitch so you keep saying you want the fucking pain harder with the hair he eventually gets so angry he shocked you till you pass out.
Self hate sex yummy hit the stop won't lie.
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self-hater 

An idiot with so great a self-esteem issue that he or she is bigoted against members of his or her own race, gender, national origin, religion, or culture.
What a self-hater! She's whiter than snow yet she not only thinks she's black, she has the unmitigated gall to tell me I'm the hater because I have a problem with those who won't accept themselves as they really are.

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