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Self-Harm 

One of the biggest mistakes people assume with self harm is that it’s just for attention. Self harm is more of a way of punishing themselves or thinking they deserve to be in that kind of pain. I remember having a conversation with someone who thought of self-harm as an attention thing, but he didn’t know that I was self harming at the time. He would talk about how, it was annoying when girls would talk about it, and “it’s an attention thing girls do”. And that literally broke me. I thought that opening up to people about it would help me, but before I could try, the walls came up again. Self-Harm is not smth used for attention. Those who self-harm, hide the scars so no one can see, and they would not be slicing their bodies and creating scars for attention. It hurts. If you want attention, you won’t do smth that hurts. Anyways just wanted to clear that up and know that if you don’t fully understand it, you are not allowed to have an opinion on it. Self-harm has triggers, the thoughts in your head die down for a couple hours, but one word or one bad thing can trigger the urge to self-harm. It is an addiction. Once you start, you can’t stop, it just gets worse and worse until you cant take it anymore and you do smth you may or may not live to regret. For those who are thinking of self-Harm, please don’t start. It’s an addiction. Just please find the strength to stop yourself<3 I love you and I’m proud of you. You didn’t come this far to ONLY come this far.
Self-Harm is a dark, lonely dangerous path, that I hope you can find the strength to not go down<3
Self-Harm by I’m proud of you December 21, 2019

Self-harm 

Self-harm is when you hurt yourself on purpose. This includes, swallowing harmful chemicals, cutting yourself, overdosing and many more. One of the most common forms of self-harm is cutting. A lot of people get judged for self-harming, because they apparently want attention. This is just a stereotype. Some people do self-harm for attention, but not everyone. Most people self-harm as a form of escape, or to show they have feelings, or to show how they feel on the inside on the outside. Not many people understand cutting and they think it's stupid. They don't understand how addictive cutting is, once you start it becomes a sort of painkiller, a way to release the pain you're feeling inside. Also don't say to someone who cuts that it's for attention. If someone walks around with their scars showing it could mean they want attention, or it could mean that they aren't afraid to show people that they had cut... Sometimes it means that they want people to like them mistakes and all. I know all of this because I cut myself for two years. I managed to stop after telling my parents. It's a hard thing to stop once you've started, it's very addictive. If you know someone who cuts themselves just be there for them, if they want to talk about it let them ramble on until they've gotten it all out; that way they won't feel like no-one's listening. Make sure they know that you care because it always helps knowing that someone is there for you
"You self-harmed? What's wrong?!"
"Everything.... I just feel like no-one understands"
"Tell me what's up, and I'll try my hardest to understand"

Self-harm 

You know why people cut? Because it's a distraction. For one moment you don't feel all the pain. The loss. The hurt. All you feel is that razor going into your skin. The blood dripping down your arm. Leg. Stomach. You don't think about how alone you are or how fat and ugly you are. You don't think about the way people talk about you behind your back. You don't think about how your family is fighting or your friends hate you. All you think about is the blood. And the addicting part? Well, that's when all the hurt and pain come back. When the cut isn't fresh and you can feel all the build-up of sadness or loneliness inside you. So you have to do it again, but a little deeper so the numbness will last longer. The pain inside will be delayed longer. And as the pain inside gets worst and worst you have to make the pain outside worse and worse. It's all about control. You have it. You can't control the pain on the inside so you get to control it on the outside.
Signs of someone who self-harms can be that they always wear hoodies or long sleeves even when it's not cold.
Self-harm by Amy1102004 August 24, 2021

Self-Harm 

Self harm is the worst way to cope with your problems. A little bit of background info on what it is, its a form of coping/therapy to people who clearly have a hard time. I hate it when people assume that its for attention and they think its funny to call someone barley hanging on to life "emo" or "attention seeker". I know this because I am in that current state. I shouldn't be doing something so horrible to myself but its a addiction that progresses and get worse as you keep doing it. I am making this due to my own actions and my friends actions, it hurts me to see people turn out like me especially at my age. Self harm is a way of hurting yourself because you think you deserve it (In my own experience that's how I felt). And the horrible people who think its funny to see someone in pure pain can all go to hell. Self harm is so bad for your health and it puts you in the dark state i'm in, its a path I want nobody to go through. And the people who purposely hurt themselves for attention, I hope they are miserable. Self harm hurts so bad mentally and psychically. People think self harming is attention seeking and it hurts because nobody really understands till they end up in the same state of the person. To anyone thinking about self harm, please don't..Its a addiction that doesn't stop when it starts, Please find someone to talk to and take care of yourself. Drink some water and please stay safe <3
"Hey _____ likes self-harm what a fucking emo haha!"

"You sick fucking bastard don't speak to me again."
Self-Harm by I love alex <3 March 23, 2022

self harm 

An expression used to describe the act of hurting oneself, most of the time by cutting but also burning, breaking bones, hitting yourself etc.

It is a general view that people self harm for attention which is normally not the case. People who self harm are generally depressed and has a hard time dealing with life. Self harm also mustn't be mixed up with suicide, as it's not done for dying, but for coping with life.

Most people who self harm are ashamed and hide it, but there are those who aren't afraid to go in long sleeves (if they cut their arms) This is most of the time NOT because they want everyone to feel sorry for them.

Also smoking can technically be counted as self harm, as it's a way of hurting oneself, although not as direct as other ways.
"I hurt myself today, to see if I still feel, I focus on the pain, the only thing that's real. The needle tears a hole, the old familiar sting, tried to kill it all away but I remember everything." - Hurt, Nine Inch Nails
self harm by Natta August 9, 2005

Self Harm 

An addictive act of cutting, hitting, burning, ect. ones self. The majority of people think self harm is a form of "attention seaking", with most cases it's not. However there's people who do self harm as a way to make people feel bad for them. Most people who self harm started doing it because of depression but now they cannot stop because thats the only escape they have.
"I self harm as an escape...not for attention"
"I self harm to take the edge off my feelings"
Self Harm by small.persons October 14, 2017
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