Used as a descriptive term for someone who takes a moment to warm up in social situations they
don’
t really want to be in in the first place and prefers not to be spoken to, unless they’
re extremely familiar with you.
John: ‘Megan was just sipping Bacardi juice at the back of the room all by herself at that party on Saturday night. She seemed to get on with Amber but she didn’
t even utilise the opportunity to cling to that one voluntarily-imposing buddy all night. What on Earth’s wrong with her?’
Chizoba: ‘there’s nothing wrong with her; she’s just the reticent type. Some
people are like that, enjoy their own company. She might not walk around glad-handing every new face that she doesn’t technically-need to interact with but once you get to know her and
break past her reticence you’ll see that she’s actually a really nice
gal. Some
people need less social stimulation (outside their tight-knit circles, and even then there might well be limits) than others and that’s absolutely
fine. All 7 billion of us can’t be exactly the same and have precisely the same wants and needs.
People are different. You’ll realise that as you socially-mature.