A Beat by wifer is like a wife beater (white sleeveless shirt) but it's black instead. (Opposite of white is black.... opposite of someone who beats their wife is someone who get's beat by their wife)
"Charlie wore a beat by wifer to his best friends funeral, I know you're suppose to wear black at funerals but come on!"
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.