The "three
day rule" is an outdated piece of
dating technology popularized by such films as "Swingers." It is a seemingly sensible yet often unrealistic tactic.
The "three
day rule" is a rule to prevent a man from appearing desperate or needy after attaining a girl'
s phone number that he (just) met. Following this rule, you are to wait 3 days before calling in order to create suspense and appear non-needy.
The truth is, it is far
better to call sooner but to make shorter calls. This way you slowly but surely integrate yourself into the girl's life, and by ENDING THE CALLS YOURSELF instead of waiting for conversation to dry out, you eliminate any signs of desperation. If you wait 3 days, you may have lost emotional momentum and it may be harder for her to recall the attraction she felt, depending on how well you did when you first met!
A far
better tactic to create suspense, for example, would be to send a text message instead telling the girl you
will call her at 4:21 on Tuesday (or some other EXACT
time), but actually call her at 4:30 that
day.
None of this is to say the "three
day rule" is completely wrong; however, it should definitely not be followed dogmatically.
Hey man, have you called Clarisse?
No, I'm using the three
day rule. I don't want to seem desperate.
How is calling a girl desperate? You don't have to ask her on a date on your first call, you know! Just tell her something cool happened,
chat briefly, then say you've gotta go and
will talk later.
Are you sure? The three
day rule is supposed to work on everyone.
Positive. Then on your next call in the next few days, invite her along somewhere if you want.
