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Chap-Stick Lesbian

A female who is bi-sexual or still sexually confused but will only 'make out' with the opposite sex. Usually they can be characterized as a 'lipstick lesbian' meaning they look and act very feminine. Many times, a chap-stick lesbian will only display homosexual behavior for shock value or to impress her peers.
Guy 1: "Dude, Sarah is so hot"
Guy 2: "Is she only into chicks now or what?"
Guy 3: "Naw, she's a chap-stick lesbian, go talk to her"
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Chapstick Lesbian

A lesbian who presents somewhere between masculine and feminine, often dressing in comfortable or sensible clothing
See also: Lipstick Lesbian
Amelé is a chapstick lesbian, she couldn't care less about seeming masc or femme

chapstick lesbian

A lesbian who cares more about practicality than image. She really doesn't gravitate to the traditional images of "butch" or "femme" -- she does what she wants, and doesn't really care how she's seen.
I prefer Chapstick over lipstick because the former is actually useful. Chapstick Lesbian, baby.
chapstick lesbian by rdlez4lyfe June 18, 2006

chapstick lesbian

A lesbian that's close to the center, maybe slightly on the femme side, of the femme-butch spectrum. A lesbian on the butch side of center, might be more accurately considered a soft butch.

A very typical look is shoulder-length hair with a mens-fit tshirt, jeans, and Timbs/Doc Martens/Vans. They might wear no makeup at all or they might do some combination of foundation/mascara/concealer. They wouldn't usually do a full eyeshadow/eyeliner/falsh lashes/lipstick situation. Alternatively, chapsticks might lean towards athletic clothing like sports bras, basketball shorts, and muscle tanks. Formally, they might wear a suit jacket over a more feminine shirt or a women's fit button up rather than a suit or a dress. Other typical chapstick clothing items include looser-fit jean jackets, leather jackets, flannels, collared shirts, beanies, and baseball caps worn forwards or backwards. To see a variety of chapstick looks I would search up King Princess, Amy Ordman, Samira Wiley, Gaby Dunn (who is actually bi, not a lesbian), Ashley Perez (I believe she identifies as queer), Ava Palazzolo, Breanne Williamson, AmbersCloset, and Ally Hills on instagram (all of whom are really great queer creators/influencers/celebrities to check out if you happen to be looking). Also on TV check out Casey in Atypical (also bi); Yorkie in the San Junipero episode of Black Mirror; and Alex, Nicky, and Poussey in Orange is the New Black.
Friend 1: Hey, do you think I'm butch or femme?
Friend 2: Neither really... I think you're more of a chapstick lesbian.
chapstick lesbian by anon1358 July 15, 2019

chapstick lesbian

A female homosexual whose gender identity is slightly to the femme side of neutral on the femme-butch continuum of gender presentation but whose appearance and preferences stop short of those of a "lipstick lesbian."
"But butch lesbians have had little to no representation on television in the US: Ellen's two "chapstick lesbian" sitcom characters are the closest we've come." (AfterEllen.com)
chapstick lesbian by meboo February 9, 2004

Chapstick Lesbian

A lesbian that is masculine but not butch. She’ll be into sports and wear masculine clothes like flannel and graphic tees and a suit to formal things. She’ll probably have her hair long but either nothing is done to it or it’s tied up. She might wear makeup like concealer for reasons and maybe a bit more for formal occasions
Logan: Hey, is Lorreli gay?

Sarah: Yeah, she’s a chapstick lesbian
Chapstick Lesbian by dO I LOOK- March 18, 2021

Tinted-chapstick lesbian

A lesbian who leans toward the femme side of the butch or lipstick continuum (that dichotomy is totally arbitrary/not legit, but just for the sake of definition). Could defy “chapstick lesbian,” standards by wearing dresses more frequently or donning makeup more frequently. May have an equal number of pairs of pajama pants and lipsticks in her home. Might enjoy wearing makeup OR loungewear just as much. Not a lipstick lesbian because they do not NEED to wear a dress or makeup - still taking less than 20 minutes to get out the door.
I am a tinted-chapstick lesbian. You can pick me up for a hike and a martini bar in 15 minutes.
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