tenderqueer

Typically a queer white hipster who uses identity politics to avoid accountability. Competitive oppression & self victimization. Centralizes themselves and their feelings in social / political movements that aren’t about them.

That tenderqueer started crying and lashing out when they were called a gentrifier.

by wellbutrinfiend November 23, 2021

Tenderqueer

The other definition is accurate but the aesthetic mention of cottagecore was overkill.

I used to be roommates with a tenderqueer, when her girlfriend stole from me and I flipped out she told me I was “projecting my traumatized past.” I left the household because she called a house meeting and tried to micromanage how I dressed because I kept turning the heat up in winter, rather than just asking me to keep the heat to whatever boundary they wanted. Keep in mind they were an unemployed trust fund kid so they weren’t paying the gas bills.

by Onegaytwoballs November 27, 2021

tenderqueer

A personality designation used typically by lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, softbois, and nonbinary folks to indicate a preference towards enforcing radical vulnerability, i.e., taking on crying, pastel colors, endless ranting over every single feeling and minor slight ever to an unconsenting audience, and obnoxious trends such as "flowercore" and cottagecore" as an aesthetic. Often seen on platforms such as tumblr, Lex, and Instagram as a hashtag or descriptor to really show all of the other queers how much more delicate they are than them.

Includes, but is not limited to: Self-victimization, ineffective methods of self care, gaslighting, competitive oppression, poorly chosen Snapchat filters and Instagram stickers, and dumping the emotional labor of dealing with your own self on others.

Normal queer: I would prefer to not talk a lot about *traumatizing thing*. I am not enjoying this conversation.
Tenderqueer: You should be more vulnerable. This is just normal, it's radical praxis to let these feelings out, despite not knowing me very well or contributing towards the conversation in a positive way. I'm so soft and tender and good about talking about myself. Let me tell you more about *traumatizing thing*.
Normal queer: I already told you no. Please respect my boundaries.
Tenderqueer: You never told me no, that never happened. I need to talk about these things for my own well being. I'm emotionally delicate. You're a bad friend for silencing me. I'm soft and gentle and I didn't do anything bad. In fact, I'm way more soft and gentle than you. You can tell because I'm wearing pink and use flower filters.
Normal queer: Why are you like this?
Tenderqueer: I'm a tenderqueer.

by vehementlyannoyed January 23, 2020

tenderqueer

Term used in the LGBTQ community to describe a fellow queer person who is perceived as too sensitive
Often pejorative

A: I'm transsexual
B: Ugh, I don't like that word, I prefer transgender
A: Stop being such a tenderqueer

by lemonlass May 10, 2022

genderqueer

"Genderqueer" describes a category of gender that is neither traditionally "female" or "male." Many different, nontraditional gender identities fall under the umbrella term "genderqueer." Genderqueer individuals may identify as having a gender somewhere between female and male or, more commonly, out of the gender binary all together.

Unless told otherwise, polite pronouns for genderqueer individuals are the singular they and ze/hir pronouns. Most genderqueer individuals take offense being referred to as "it."

"Is Dakota a girl or a boy?" "They're genderqueer!"

"So, because she's genderqueer, it means she's a slut and sleeps with everyone, right?" "Haha, no. Genderqueer just means their gender identity. It has nothing to do with their sexual orientation."

"I'm a dude, so I don't really want to take home ec." "Dude, I'm genderqueer! I'll take whatever the hell I want and not worry about it."

by lydie22 August 20, 2011

genderqueer

Genderqueer people are people whose gender is not exclusively male or female. A similar term is nonbinary.

While genderqueer could be an identity of itself, some common genders that fall under the genderqueer umbrella are: agender, bigender, genderfluid, androgyne, ambigender, and neutrois.
Genderqueer is usually seen as falling under the trans umbrella, and some genderqueer people will call themselves trans.

Fallon: You're mtf, right?
Skylar: No, I'm actually genderqueer.

by kyerowan January 17, 2014

genderqueer

Genderqueer is both an umbrella term for some nonbinary genders and an identity in and of itself. The genderqueer identity is one that is neither male or female, but often has a combination of both masculinity and femininity and/or something distinctly other. A genderqueer person might consider themselves between binary genders or totally separate from them.

I'm a proud genderqueer activist.

by nikkimouseclub November 14, 2016