The destructive/oppressive practice of --- when wrongfully refusing a perfectly-reasonable request from someone of less physical/emotional/intellectual/financial means than you possess --- consulting someone else whom you know will be a "yes man" to anything you say (i.e., "pawn") for a confirming/bolstering agreement, thereby invalidly giving the unfortunate favor/easement-requester the false idea that "everyone else feels the same as I do", and thus that he himself must be the one who's being selfish/wimpy/unreasonable to expect something like that, even though both you and your "confederate" know fully well that **you yourself** are the one who's in the wrong by your heartless refusal to allow for the asker's less-than-optimum capabilities.
Asking for a second opawnion is actually a form of gaslighting, since it can cause the unfortunate mercy-seeker to doubt his own sanity in his actually-totally-valid belief that whatever he is requesting is logical/necessary. By your strongly expressing your lying assertion that his request is unreasonable/preposterous --- and yet he himself can see no problem with whatever he is asking for, since he honestly feels the genuine and overwhelming need to have said easement granted him due to his own infirmities/incapabilities --- you may very likely cause him to invalidly think that he does not even know his own needs/self/body properly, which can lead to a permanent damage to his basic perception of reality and self-worth.
by QuacksO December 2, 2017