Basically any concrete aspect of reality which shatters the personal idealized image of a future scenario or occurrence, often one that is highly meaningful to the individual.
You see... while our minds often think in abstract simplistic ways, reality is often chaotic, abrupt, arbitrary, and outright disagrees with our ideals, thereby 'refuting' the idealized. Other times, reality can make your ideals seem hypocritical. It can be quite a sad and disappointing realization. It sometimes makes you want to lock yourself inside your own world even more, only to subject yourself to reality when needed or when you feel competent or wise enough.
You see... while our minds often think in abstract simplistic ways, reality is often chaotic, abrupt, arbitrary, and outright disagrees with our ideals, thereby 'refuting' the idealized. Other times, reality can make your ideals seem hypocritical. It can be quite a sad and disappointing realization. It sometimes makes you want to lock yourself inside your own world even more, only to subject yourself to reality when needed or when you feel competent or wise enough.
An example of a 'refutation of the idealized' would be the idealized picture of a romantic relationship you've always dreamed about in your mind ever since you were a kid. This picture is then refuted later in your adult life when relationships gradually (or abruptly) show itself in a manner so complex and chaotic that your visionary mind simply cannot handle. This might make you want to give up relationships altogether. (remember this is just one example)
Of course, the solution is to gain wisdom and rewire our minds towards the principles of realism and cognitive-behavioral approaches, but we may not always be ready for this yet. We may never feel like we are. This self change will eventually come naturally; it should never come abruptly, as you might risk becoming a cynic and/or grow a machiavellian complex.
A reasonable dose of idealized quirky thinking is always healthy. Heck, even a couple spoonfuls more is good; it is what makes you ultimately you. Let realism guide you through life, but don't let it ever rule you.
Of course, the solution is to gain wisdom and rewire our minds towards the principles of realism and cognitive-behavioral approaches, but we may not always be ready for this yet. We may never feel like we are. This self change will eventually come naturally; it should never come abruptly, as you might risk becoming a cynic and/or grow a machiavellian complex.
A reasonable dose of idealized quirky thinking is always healthy. Heck, even a couple spoonfuls more is good; it is what makes you ultimately you. Let realism guide you through life, but don't let it ever rule you.
by Mary Mary Quite The Contrarian December 30, 2021
Get the Refutation of the Idealized mug.reputation is Taylor Swift’s best era and album. reputation era as a slang is usually used on stan Twitter when some popular musician is expected to drop their dark themed album. It is also used when a person is getting hate and a lot of backlash for something.
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when someone says they are “entering their reputation era” it basically means that they are about to f@!? some sh!t up. they will get revenge, and glow from the inside out. it’s a bad b!tch moment for sure. it originated from Taylor swift when she dropped the single “look what you made me do” calling out kanye and everyone who talked down on her.
“omg i heard about taylor, everyone’s been making false rumours about her, she’s totally going to enter her reputation era after all this drama.”
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Get the reputation era mug.Basically, this term means that you can't get something any cleaner (or purer) than it is. It's also meant as a compliment by saying that somebody's mother is not a skanky whore or streetwalker. This term appeared in the young adult edition of the novel adaptation of the 1979 sci-fi thriller"Alien".
George the janitor tidied up the restroom so well it's not simply spic and span, it's as clean as your mother's reputation.
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Get the clean as your mother's reputation mug.literal: derived from Taylor Swift’s most notable album (or commonly referred to as an era by her fans) in which she sheds her good-girl image and takes on an alter ego of an unexpected, darker, more vengeful version of herself. the album is rooted in irony and mockery of the people who dragged her name through mud.
figuratively/stan usage: although it is commonly referred to as when a person has a comeback with vengeance and to mock those that have hurt them, it is more deeply understood through her fan base as one of her most romantic pieces of art, because although the album’s setting is a dark place in life, the stories of this album detail of love that cannot be broken by status or superficial things. it is a romance that lifts her from the dead as she “once was poison ivy”, and she grows into a “daisy”.
someone who is said to be in their “rep era” is completely aware of bullshit and clowns and is not only coming back for vengeance, but gives absolutely zero fucks about it, because they probably have the love of their life waiting for them if they “strike out and crawl home”.
figuratively/stan usage: although it is commonly referred to as when a person has a comeback with vengeance and to mock those that have hurt them, it is more deeply understood through her fan base as one of her most romantic pieces of art, because although the album’s setting is a dark place in life, the stories of this album detail of love that cannot be broken by status or superficial things. it is a romance that lifts her from the dead as she “once was poison ivy”, and she grows into a “daisy”.
someone who is said to be in their “rep era” is completely aware of bullshit and clowns and is not only coming back for vengeance, but gives absolutely zero fucks about it, because they probably have the love of their life waiting for them if they “strike out and crawl home”.
person one: rebecca is acting weird, do you think she is mad we called her a hoe?
person two: i hope she isn’t in her reputation era (rep era), she has my nudes
person two: i hope she isn’t in her reputation era (rep era), she has my nudes
by if i say it i know it’s true December 4, 2021
Get the reputation era (rep era) mug.This action occurs while watching the DVR. As one fast-forwards through the commercials of their taped program, they accidently press play too soon--before the program has returned.
Declan fast-forwarded through the commercials of his favorite TV show, Breaking Bad, since he recorded it on his DVR.
While speeding by the ads at an alarming rate, he thought he saw Breaking Bad return and pushed play. Declan was wrong. He proceeded to do this two more times during the same commercial break. Declan needs to pace himself or he'll continue to experience premature remotation.
While speeding by the ads at an alarming rate, he thought he saw Breaking Bad return and pushed play. Declan was wrong. He proceeded to do this two more times during the same commercial break. Declan needs to pace himself or he'll continue to experience premature remotation.
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