A relationship between sexual and/or romantic partners wherein the participants don't admit to or have awareness of the fact that the premise of the relationship is entirely based on a sexual fetish.
T: "He loves me for me, we're in a committed relationship."
M: "He loves you because you're dangerously, morbidly obese and he gets off to it; you're in a fetiship."
Fogey/fogy /fougi/ sl. (early 18C+, orig. Scot) old-fashioned, stuck-in-the mud.
Person with old fashioned ideas which he is unwilling to change: Come to the disco and stop being such an old fogey!
You think me an old fogeyand an old tory, his thoughtful voice said. I saw three generations since O’Connel’s time. I remember the famine. Do you know that the orange lodges agitated for repeal of the union twenty years before O’Connel did or before the prelates of your communion denounced him as a demagogue? You fenians forget some things. (James Joyce, Ulysses. PenguinBooks,1992. p. 38)