A person who does
everything within their power to avoid taking accountability for their life and decisions. They'
ll expect their lives to improve magically through no effort of their own, have an acute and outspoken sense of
toxic entitlement, and blame circumstances out of their control,
society, or mental health, for their
bad fortune while actively avoiding all actions that would lead them to betterment. The typical avoider will live with someone vulnerable to their alleged plight and leech off them, creating a manipulative, abusive and/or at least parasitic relationship that loops each time a solution is suggested.
Avoiders become aggressive when advice is given to them, no matter how convenient or simple, as anyone with a differing view or options is painted as not trying to understand them but causing more stress instead. This is done as a shield, and often recalled for the express purpose of acting out a guilt
trip. As they often have no real income they
may be found begging and manipulating their friends for
money, then bragging about how well they'
re doing, until the funds run out. Avoiders are unwilling to change and should, in turn, be avoided themselves.
Avoider: "I'm so depressed. Nothing is working out for me."
Friend: "We had a 6 hour talk with a recruiter willing to set you u-"
Avoider: "Wow I can't believe I'm in such a state and all you can think about is
work.
Whatever. Bye.."
