"A Tom" - A phrase used to describe a white cis heterosexual 5'11 lanky male. 'A Tom' was born with immense privileges, however, refuses to acknowledge or be aware that he was born with a "silver spoon" in his mouth. He navigates the
world as if he is deserving of
people's
time and energy. 'A Tom' grew up a third-culture
kid and/or immersed in cultural festivities that they believe make them
special and better than other white cishet 5'11 lanky males. Confused in his identity or the historic violence of being a white man in spaces that are sacred to people of color, 'A Tom'
may co-opt a chosen POC's culture as if it is their own -or- believe that he is a man of color and/or associates himself with these
men of color. These individuals fetish and exoticize certain countries and/or places in the world and in turn the women in these places hoping to fulfill their fantasies of mixed-raced third culture
kids that they could never be themselves. 'A Tom' personality is tremendous self-centered, egotistical, manipulative, and on the narcissism spectrum. 'A Tom'
may act as an
ally to POC, go as far as positioning themselves in this way but, their intentions are completely self-evolving and preformative to say the least.
A Tom was inspired by Tom Courtright. A true and utter "Tom"
"Why do these "toms" have
access to our cultural heritage in ways we do not?"
"Look he is such 'a tom' with his
African printed
shirt and pants."
