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A Tom

"A Tom" - A phrase used to describe a white cis heterosexual 5'11 lanky male. 'A Tom' was born with immense privileges, however, refuses to acknowledge or be aware that he was born with a "silver spoon" in his mouth. He navigates the world as if he is deserving of people's time and energy. 'A Tom' grew up a third-culture kid and/or immersed in cultural festivities that they believe make them special and better than other white cishet 5'11 lanky males. Confused in his identity or the historic violence of being a white man in spaces that are sacred to people of color, 'A Tom' may co-opt a chosen POC's culture as if it is their own -or- believe that he is a man of color and/or associates himself with these men of color. These individuals fetish and exoticize certain countries and/or places in the world and in turn the women in these places hoping to fulfill their fantasies of mixed-raced third culture kids that they could never be themselves. 'A Tom' personality is tremendous self-centered, egotistical, manipulative, and on the narcissism spectrum. 'A Tom' may act as an ally to POC, go as far as positioning themselves in this way but, their intentions are completely self-evolving and preformative to say the least.

A Tom was inspired by Tom Courtright. A true and utter "Tom"

"Why do these "toms" have access to our cultural heritage in ways we do not?"

"Look he is such 'a tom' with his African printed shirt and pants."

by tom_courtrightSUCKS August 12, 2021