When a certain thing or person acts in a gay fashion (slang: Stupid; Idiotic, Jose), this phrase can take the place of one such as "You are a gay fag."
If I said "You are a gay person," "If _____ was a boy it would like other boys," could be substituted instead. For example "If Pikachu were a boy it would like other boy Pikachus."
church hurt is where you experience a degree of distance, pain, or judgement from your church community. Essentially, you are just unable to “find your place”. This is prevalent in the Christian community, but can be extended to other religions.
Now that I am an adult I am beginning to heal from the church hurt that was inflicted on me as a child.